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Yeah, I think saying “toxic masculinity” and moving on like it’s these guys’ fault they’re isolated is a large part of the issue. While I don’t recommend befriending every single lonely guy out there, it won’t kill people to listen or care about others.

Saying it’s “you’re” fault and absolving oneself of fault doesn’t do that. It just pushes someone else into more isolation. That’s how you end up with guys talking to porn bots: because no one will listen to them. That’s how you get incels following Andrew Tate or Nick Fuentes: people called out their “toxic masculinity,” but weren’t willing to help, just protect themselves.

While I get it that boundaries are a good defense against legitimate threats, as someone who was in this demographic, it literally took just one person being nice to me and now I’m not just some “nice guy” on Reddit (Now I’m a piece of shit on Lemmy). Now I’m married and can show incels I meet that there is a path forward where they aren’t lonely and they don’t have to listen to virgin wannabe rapists to learn how to be cool.

Dear Steam: don’t

I think you both are essentially right. Like, I don’t think he’s a plant by republicans, but I do think that like Hilary, his values align with republicans, not liberals (I make the distinction of republicans and liberals because most elected democrats are not as far left as their constituents). But I think almost all Representatives are part of the ruling class. In America, you kinda have to be. Either they take corporate money or they own businesses (i.e. are part of “corporate”)

Americans get it: the politicians benefit from acting like it’s left vs right. It’s a small amount of Americans that don’t get this, the rest of us are stuck with a two party system where unless you are a .1%er you can’t create a new party, and EVERY .1%er supports whatever side won’t tax them.