I was at a bar once and this woman asked me what I did for a living. After I told her, she asked “Do you remember your dreams?” It really stunned me for a minute and I got pretty sad remembering what I wanted to be when I was growing up. I started to answer, and it turns out, she was just changing the subject and literally just wanted to know if I remember my dreams after I wake up in the morning. 😭

How is that defeatist or a negative reflection on the speaker? My girlfriend says it from time to time and it’s never made me think less of her. She’s great at math and very financially responsible, she just says it to be funny sometimes.

It’s a joke… It’s a silly way of acknowledging that you’re using math incorrectly to feel better about a purchase.

Season 1 Episode 3 of The Last of Us TV show. I was in a similar place as you for a long time, and that episode of all things just absolutely broke me for some reason. It was pretty cathartic.

I think it depends on the context.

Sometimes, friends can say something like this from a somewhat well-meaning place. Not necessarily that they’re mad at the situation, but more as a confidence booster to help that friend potentially get out of a bad relationship. (Sometimes this can be done in a bad way though).

Other times, it’s a jealousy thing. Like, if a guy sees a woman he finds attractive with some other guy, he might start commenting on how she’s “out of his league” (regardless of the other guy’s qualities) either because he’s frustrated he can’t find a partner he finds attractive, or maybe even in hopes of competing with the other guy for the woman. This is mostly a toxic thing and rarely has much to do with how well the couple fits together.

For me, it often just makes me wonder what positive qualities the person might have that make them a worthy partner. As someone who is not conventionally attractive at all and dating someone who is extremely attractive, seeing other couples that maybe aren’t an exact match in terms of looks gives me hope and confidence.

As a side note, I’ve actually had a few well meaning friends tell me that my partner is “out of my league”, which was a bit hurtful, but I think they were just trying to be protective.

TL;DR: Yeah, people say it (and mean it) for a variety of reasons. But it’s usually not that they object to it conceptually, but more that they have their own biases involved. Don’t let it affect your opinions though. There’s a lot more to a relationship than just how someone looks (or how much money they make).

This actually happened with my father. Not only was the missing rent due, but they also had a lawyer argue that by dieing, my father had broken the lease, so we had to pay the fee for that too. The judge reduced the fee a bit, but we still ended up having to pay thousands out of his estate to that shitty apartment complex’s parent company.

So yes, at least in the state this happened, the missing rent was required to be paid out of the estate. Not sure what your role is in this scenario, but if someone died, consider kindness rather than trying to secure every last dollar possible.