I’m a walking talking transmed ideal. Knew from the time I was a kid. Binary. Crippling dysphoria. I wanted bottom surgery from the moment I knew it existed and I’ve had nearly every transition related surgery possible.
But I’ve got more in common with non binary folk, and trans folk who don’t want surgeries, and don’t struggle with dysphoria than I will ever have in common with a broader society that teaches us to hate ourselves. Gender diverse folk are my peers, and what we have in common is finding self love, self pride, and giving a middle finger to those who would try and take that away from us.
You would benefit from finding some of that pride in finding and accepting who you are despite surviving in a world that tries to deny you that. The answer isn’t to hate yourself more, and to push hatred on to your peers.
The thing you will see with 4chan spaces and transmed spaces is that all of them carry shame for being trans. Some of them hate themselves openly and others don’t openly hate themselves, but even in a perfect, accepting world, would still want to hide who they are. Both of those are just different degrees of the same thing though. And you weren’t born with that internalised shame. You learned it by growing up surrounded by transphobia. Fight back by finding some love for yourself and who you are, instead of agreeing with the people that taught you self hate in the first place
I’m a walking talking transmed ideal. Knew from the time I was a kid. Binary. Crippling dysphoria. I wanted bottom surgery from the moment I knew it existed and I’ve had nearly every transition related surgery possible.
But I’ve got more in common with non binary folk, and trans folk who don’t want surgeries, and don’t struggle with dysphoria than I will ever have in common with a broader society that teaches us to hate ourselves. Gender diverse folk are my peers, and what we have in common is finding self love, self pride, and giving a middle finger to those who would try and take that away from us.
You would benefit from finding some of that pride in finding and accepting who you are despite surviving in a world that tries to deny you that. The answer isn’t to hate yourself more, and to push hatred on to your peers.
The thing you will see with 4chan spaces and transmed spaces is that all of them carry shame for being trans. Some of them hate themselves openly and others don’t openly hate themselves, but even in a perfect, accepting world, would still want to hide who they are. Both of those are just different degrees of the same thing though. And you weren’t born with that internalised shame. You learned it by growing up surrounded by transphobia. Fight back by finding some love for yourself and who you are, instead of agreeing with the people that taught you self hate in the first place