I dont want to live in this reality any more.

  • Tanis Nikana@lemmy.world
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    Honestly, as a trans woman that doesn’t pass, there’s fewer than ten states where I feel comfortable existing.

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      No such thing as doesn’t pass. You tell me you’re a woman? Who the fuck am I to question what you feel in your bones? In the spirit of the republicans making shit up to disenfranchise, I hereby declare that you pass. As whatever the fuck you want, whenever the fuck you want to.

      I will even print you a pass.

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        In Oregon, today, in a performing theater of all places, as I entered the vestibule of the women’s restroom, some old lady said “are you sure this is the men’s room? Wanna go check the sign once again?”

        So that fucked with my whole day.

        I thought I looked good, looked stylish. 13 years of HRT is not enough apparently.

        There’s pictures of me on my userinfo page.

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          “it’s the women’s, I’m a woman. Wanna go check it doesn’t read “brainless muppet” you rotten hag?”

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            I am far too polite for that. I’m the sort that stands off to the side of the sidewalk when a bunch of people are walking in the opposite direction, and in a line abreast, and I wait patiently for them to go past. I’m the kind of person that does a quick bow when someone holds the door for me. I’m the kind of person who takes as little space as possible, and tries to be mindful of the harmony needed for society to move along.

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      Give yourself credit for bravery, fortitude and resiliency. As a hetero white cis male, there are zero states I feel comfortable existing in.

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        I do have a question though, when did cis become an acronym, and what does it stand for now? When I was learning English, I had learned that it was a Latin root, to imply “on the same side of”, like “cisisochemic” or “cisatlantic,” and is the opposite of trans, or “on the opposite side of.”

        At some point in the last few years, I’ve been seeing it capitalized in places, and I wonder why the switch? Unfortunately, when I look it up, I get a mismatched set of AI slop results and generated pages that say nothing coherent.

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          It can very well come from Latin. Trans can be translated as “above”, “beyond” or “across”. Cis can be translated as “within” or “inside”.

          So someone who is Cisgender is “inside” their gender assigned at birth. Someone who is transgender is “beyond” their assigned gender at birth and now has a different gender.

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            Yeah, but my comment said that I understood that, but I was wondering when it became an acronym, and what does that acronym mean.

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              Trans is just the opposite of cis. Cis is someone comfortable in their AGAB and someone who is trans is not comfortable in thei AGAB.

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                I understand the meaning of it when it’s written in lowercase. I mean, I’m trans. Came out a decade and a half ago.

                When I see it written in all capital letters, it’s an acronym, and I have no idea what that acronym means.

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                    Never mind, found a source that showed that sometimes cisgender people will write “CIS” in all capital letters to mean “comfortable in skin.”

                    Which is really weird, but it tracks.

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        Bravery doesn’t mean much when I just wanna exist without the federal government throwing its full weight against me, while riling up lone wolves and poisoning any sort of discussion and thought process among the public.

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          Respectfully disagree. It means everything. It is an unfair burden for you to bear, but your existence is a beacon of light for everyone who struggles with acceptance of diversity and seeks basic human rights. You are not alone.