Anger spats are normal, as long as they don’t become the default.
From an ND perspective there’s also the angrymaking part of having a possible distraction from the ennui of grief being potentially snatched away. Then there’s just the complete shit situation of wanting to help but very possibly not being able to (which btw does nothing to assuage the sense of moral obligation)
Ramble ramble but tldr: a boilover is an appropriate response. I’m just so sorry this is happening.
It isn’t even a distraction from grief. It’s actually been complicating it and making everything more painful and stressful which is why I tried to handball this.
It’s also creating a lot of change, uncertainty and emotional rollercoasters right when I really don’t need that, and putting me in no-win situations where I can’t do anything to help.
I’m angry at the owners. I hope they take this cat to the vet. As he ages (already suspect arthritis) or if he gets too sick to ignore (already has cat flu and ringworm) it will eventually need to happen anyway and it’s going to be more traumatic if he’s not used to it.
Anger spats are normal, as long as they don’t become the default.
From an ND perspective there’s also the angrymaking part of having a possible distraction from the ennui of grief being potentially snatched away. Then there’s just the complete shit situation of wanting to help but very possibly not being able to (which btw does nothing to assuage the sense of moral obligation)
Ramble ramble but tldr: a boilover is an appropriate response. I’m just so sorry this is happening.
It isn’t even a distraction from grief. It’s actually been complicating it and making everything more painful and stressful which is why I tried to handball this.
It’s also creating a lot of change, uncertainty and emotional rollercoasters right when I really don’t need that, and putting me in no-win situations where I can’t do anything to help.
I’m angry at the owners. I hope they take this cat to the vet. As he ages (already suspect arthritis) or if he gets too sick to ignore (already has cat flu and ringworm) it will eventually need to happen anyway and it’s going to be more traumatic if he’s not used to it.
Yes. The horrors feel endless.