Hey hey all! TW about surgery questions regarding SRS parts and stuff like that.
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I have a question that I don’t really know where else to ask. I have a specific set of dysmorphic concerns. Not everything kicks off the feelings, but some things always do.
One of the things that always triggers the feeling is testicles. I fucking hate having them, seeing them, feeling them. It’s easily among the worst (or tied for the worst) things to deal with. I’ve looked at the possibility of seeking an orchiectomy, but a very small part of me is afraid that doing something like that but not going for “full SRS surgery” will just cause people to treat me differently. The question is only becoming a bit more real lately to me now that I may have the opportunity to actually get the surgery in the coming year or two.
Maybe it’s a bit silly or whatever and I know gender and all of this is really complicated and more just up to us individually, but I guess I’m just curious what others think about all of this.
Has anyone done similar? How has it changed your dating life afterwards? Has it affected you in other ways? What kinda considerations are there for something like this?
I’ve only gotten an orchi and don’t plan to get a vaginoplasty, but I’m also not really in the dating scene. No one treats me any differently except for myself. I’m a lot more comfortable in my body and thus more comfortable expressing myself and my gender. There are definitely people who desire me carnally, and anyone who cares whether or not I have balls is really too cooked to be with me anyway.
I think you have the right of it (as do other people in the thread). I guess I just need to get out of my own head about what other people think. I know I would be happier with the surgery, so… fuck everyone else?
If it makes you feel any better, it’s not fuck EVERYONE, just anybody that would infringe on your right to your own body.
I get it, though. My orchiectomy was very symbolic for me, taking control of my own existence. Before that, I constantly felt like any major life decision I would have to run by everyone in my life to make sure I was being sensible by their standards. But my friends don’t really want to make my decisions for me, and they don’t feel the dysphoria that I feel. It’s been really freeing to TELL my friends what I’m doing instead of asking for some awkward social permission.