I think nowadays I do a similar amount of work as she. Some tasks she does more, others I do more. And we both have help.

Anyway, our sex problems are as old as our marriage, many years before pregnancy.

Regarding your other comment about not having a right to sex: marriage comes with an implicit spectation of sex. If someone despises sex, they need to make it clear before marriage.

I am not talking about one side being a dick and still demanding sex. I am talking about a person with clear health problems refusing treatment because therapy is for the weak and therefore she has no problem.

I am not saying she is evil, I am saying prejudiced caricatures cause troubled people to refuse therapy.