“stop wasting time with that Linux thing. Nobody will ever hire you unless you specialize in Windows”
Linux has done far more for me professionally than being a Windows engineer ever got me, and it repeatedly keeps being proven.
Ymmv depending on where you are. I was happily employed in the Unix space until I moved to Seattle.
Wish I could say the same, so far Linux knowledge seems to have done very little for me as far as employment goes. I have used it at work before but normally it isn’t something anyone else seems to care about. At least my limited knowledge of Windows hasn’t been too significant of a problem so far either.
I’ve been running some Linux servers for fun, at my last job we also had quite a few. The only admin quit, no documentation. Guess who got a big salary increase because he was the only one with the knowledge required to keep this shitshow running? Yep, that’s me.
Thanks to past me for installing every distro under the sun and sinking years into the commandline, shell scripting, web and mail servers just for the thrill. Linux is awesome.
Came here looking for someone saying “face tattoo”. None so far.
Not playing football, or being interested it it at all.
dropping out of highschool. best decision I ever made tbh
I’ve kicked myself in the ass over that decision a lot over the years. It’s far behind me now, but I still kinda regret it.
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This. 100 times this.
This is the mantra of the family I married to. Sometimes a little too much.
Still love them though:)
No one has told me I would regret that but so far living like that is great.
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A variation of this that I realized fairly recently is that striving for excellence doesn’t mean the journey towards it is garbage. I can both feel pride in what I’ve done while also acknowledging where it could have been better with the intent to either circle back and do it better in the future (for like house projects) or avoid that mistake next time (for creations).
Like I did a cross stitch of a wolf and it skewed a bit because it had a lot of half-stitching (without going into too much detail, a full cross stitch equalizes the forces the threads put on the canvas while a half-stitch puts an uneven force on it). So for my current one, I got hoops that I previously didn’t think I needed, which hold the canvas in place outside so the threads are less likely to put a high force where they are.
And my next one will involve a better ordering strategy because my fairly random approach caused some areas of the canvas to bunch up more than others. Less noticeable than the wolf’s skew, but still a flaw I’d like to fix going forward but I’m not beating myself up about the current one.
Assuming this is even relevant to the context you mean lol.
That’s a damn good answer.
Not going to church
I mean, the whole point is that you are going to regret it after you die so it might be a bit early to comment on that
There is no hell but the ones created here on earth by humans, often driven by religion
That’s fucking stupid.
Eh, that’s the kinda thing you don’t know what you’re missing. Contentment and Hope are a powerful life force.
Don’t need church for those.
Becoming atheist
Leaving proprietary software.
Yes. I keep hearing how Microsoft or Apple or Google is about to do something I shouldn’t miss. And they (the unmissable things) keep being kind of big nothings.
In my 5th birthday my parents threw a party for me with friends from kindergarten. My father had a pretty good camera for the time and loved taking photos. This was during analog times, way before digital cameras, so you wouldn’t just take a bunch of photos because it got expensive. He wanted to take a group photo and I, always being a little annoyed back then with the constant photos, stuck out my tongue. He tried to make me smile but I refused. So he told me he’d take the photo of me sticking out my tongue and I’d regret it when I’m an adult that I don’t have a nice photo of me on my 5th birthday. I’m 40 and I don’t regret it. Love that photo.
When I was a kid I went through the boxes that held all the family photos and threw away the ones of me, there is now very little physical evidence I existed at all up in till the mid 90s.
Refusing to learn cursive and long form division in 3rd grade. Never needed either.
Question, if you never learned cursive, does that mean you cab’t read cursive, or doea it juat take a little longer? And can’t you just kinda write cursive after a while anyway? I learned cursive like a year after i learned writing, so it just went hand in hand, and i never thought about it as a skill per se.
I can somewhat read cursive. Takes me a long time, so I’m not going to bother with anything longer than a sentence. I can sign my name in cursive and can more or less write in lower case cursive but i doubt it’s easy to read and I take a lot of creative liberties.
Not having kids.
Anal
getting a hysterectomy. this last year has proven that my foresight was indeed correct, the post right above this one is an article about the government planning to reduce or remove access to contraceptives, and no way in hell is anyone gonna make me be pregnant. i was extremely lucky to find a surgeon who would do it since i have no kids and was under thirty at the time.
It is extremely concerning how many surgeons are happy to sterilize men on request, but push back HARD when women ask. I’ve talked to several women in this exact situation, it’s like if you’re under 30 and don’t have 5 kids you must not have any idea what you want and you lose agency over your own body. One friend who wanted this had surgeons demanding a permission slip from her husband. What the fuck? Does her body belong to him? I find this situation abhorrent. Your body your choice end of story. And if you regret the consequences that’s on you, not your doctor. And SHOULD NOT BE your doctor’s job to dictate your life plans
As a man who’s been very sure he wanted to remain childfeee since his teens: most surgeons won’t sterilize men on request either. I was told several times to come back after I was married with at least three kids. Had to move to the literal opposite corner of the country to a place where Planned Parenthood isn’t under constant assault to get a vasectomy after decades of chasing one.
Wow. That’s unreal. If I may ask were you trying to do a vasectomy (which can often be reversed) or something more permanent?
A vasectomy, mostly. I did try to get into some studies for things like IVD, but that never materialized either.
I was shocked at how easy it was when I got to the NW and just…walked into a Planned Parenthood and scheduled the appointment.
Florida in the late 90s/early 00s was very “unreal”, but it’s gotten worse every time I’ve gone back to visit.
There was a quote something like no matter how bad life gets religion can always be counted on to make it worse.
my surgeon has your mindset and i trust her with my life. she also said if i decide to start T she manages transgender care as well. a few months ago i even saw her on a youtube ad advocating for womens rights and body autonomy. i just hope she doesnt leave the area, as a lot of doctors do here.
Not wanting kids.
I don’t begrudge anyone not wanting kids. It’s not for everyone.
That said, my first thought when I saw the post title was “I don’t regret having kids”.
I suppose the caveat is that my twins are only 2 and a half, I may well regret having kids when they start getting pregnant, selling drugs, marrying chat bots, that sort of thing.
Edit: I just scrolled through some of the other comments and noticed that the majority of them say that they don’t regret not having kids. The fediverse is pretty homogenous I guess.
Were you told you would regret having your kids? That’s wild.
It’s a lot more common for people to be told that they will regret not having kids, than being told they’ll regret having them… so I think the similarities in the responses is quite natural, dont you? Not a lot of parents can answer this post with their kids in mind, but pretty much every voluntarily childless person can.
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It’s just so rude to say someone will regret their choice regarding kids… BIL is free to make that choice for himself, and more than welcome to keep his mouth shut on your choice.
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It’s a lot more common for people to be told that they will regret not having kids, than being told they’ll regret having them
That’s not my experience, at all.
When I was in my 20s plenty of older guys would tell me not to have kids. Admittedly, these were the older weirdos hanging out at bars, but the source of the advice isn’t really in question right now.
Every single voluntarily childless person I’ve spoken to have had the experience of being told they’ll regret it.
I can only recall two people being told they’d regret their decision to have kids… and they were both teenagers, so even though I don’t agree with saying something like that, I can understand the sentiment of wanting them to wait a few years.
Seems we life in very different worlds.
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In my own case, it’s certainly been one of my life’s great adventures. The most meaningful thing I’ve ever done.
Cons: you don’t know what you’re missing
Pros: you don’t know what you’re not missing
Not having kids. I have hobbies, and money/time for them.
One of the previous popes called childless couples selfish. I say a never-married 70-year old operating the world’s largest paedophile welfare programme has nothing to say to me about child-rearing.
