• yesman@lemmy.world
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    9 days ago

    It’s always confused me when people make a huge distinction between friendship and romance. By my thinking, a romantic relationship is a type of friendship. Like squares and rectangles.

    The idea that you could be in a committed relationship with someone who’s not your friend seems bizarre and hostile somehow.

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      8 days ago

      My partner and I are consistently surprised when we realize that a friend, coworker, family member etc. actively dislikes their partner and/or doesn’t consider them a friend.

      Bizzare and hostile is a fitting description, I couldn’t hack it in a relationship where I didn’t feel deep and genuine friendship for the other person. I feel like it’s foundational to establishing the type of trust that feels indispensable to me in a committed partnership.