I’m asking as a dad of two biological kids and one adopted child (though the concept of adoption differs between the West and the Arab world), ranging in age from 13 to 17. I was raised with a traditional Arab boss-subordinate dynamic between parent and child, but with my kids I went the opposite way and tried to cultivate a best-friend, mentor, and guide relationship, while still maintaining my role as an authority figure.

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    Every one of your ancestors has faced the same dynamic. Everyone has thought the future looked grim since forever.

    If you personally don’t want to be a parent thats fine, but judging every parent for being a parent is a weird take.

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        6 days ago

        Hmm.

        100 years ago the great war had just ended. 20 million deaths and about the same in severe injuries. You’d probably know the widows of several young men who died.

        The great war spread the Spanish flu, one of the deadliest pandemics in history, where between 50 million and 100 million people perished.

        The great depression began almost 100 years ago. Like a recession with more supply chain collapse. Even if you could afford clothes you couldnt buy them because the factory that made them couldnt afford to buy cloth.

        During this time Nazism took root in Germany and set the scene for the second world war.

        I can assure you that people living in this time thought the future looked very bleak.

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          5 days ago

          yea now tell how any of that compares to the wet bulb crisis or ocean deoxygenation

          go look up what your climate scientist are saying

          we are fucked

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            5 days ago

            Of course we face huge problems at present, but we’re also more capable at implementing solutions than we have ever been.

            “we are fucked” is a bleak generalisation that can’t be rebutted. Regardless, my point remains that people have believed that throughout the ages, and have always pointed to current threats as being more existential than those faced in the past.

            There’s actually a lot of research into the issue of pessimism about the future. Honestly, it’s really interesting and I would challenge you to take a look - you might actually feel a little better about the state of the world. It’s a well researched topic but this is a good start.

            That’s not to diminish the threats we face. Of course we need to take action and avoid complacency, and of course there will be a significant and deleterious impact from climate change, probably even “catastrophic” by some metrics and in some areas. However, I’m confident that as a race we will adapt, survive, and overcome.

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              5 days ago

              already aware, but you are way under stating the problem, time to take action  was 50 years ago

              nothing we have technology wise is going to scale to what we need and we are cutting back funding not expanding currently in the US

              again go read what your climate scientist are saying and watch what billionaires are doing with their money