Why or why not?

If so, would it depend on how they present or their assigned gender at birtb or something else?

(Edit: fixed AGAB to confuse less people. Sorry people.)

    • python@lemmy.world
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      16 days ago

      I remember listening to an audiobook about Bisexuality some time ago that used a unique but very logical set of definitions. Those were:

      • Straight: attracted to gender(s) that are not the same as yours
      • Gay: attracted to gender(s) that are the same as yours
      • Bi: attracted to gender(s) that are yours as well as gender(s) that are not yours
      • Pan: Attraction is independent of gender

      So someone who isn’t Nonbinary being attracted to someone who is NB could still count as Straight by that definition. You could also count an Enby as straight if they’re attracted to both male and female presenting people, but not other Enbies.
      But honestly, it’s just a fun framework and people should be able to describe themselves however they like. The semantics of their category doesn’t really matter after all.

  • yermaw@sh.itjust.works
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    15 days ago

    Like everything, it depends. But probably not, theres too much aggro around that sort of thing since it turned into a political football.

    If I properly loved them then sure I’d put up with it, and learn all about it, but I dont relish the idea of drawing heat from bigots everywhere I go, and would rather not.

  • HrabiaVulpes@lemmy.world
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    15 days ago

    To be fair, I don’t think I would date someone whose whole personality is just their gender…

    Aside from that - depends who they are, how they behave etc.

  • Peruvian_Skies@sh.itjust.works
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    15 days ago

    I never thought about it but yes, if they meet my other criteria for dating, being nonbinary wouldn’t rule anyone out. It’s just another personality trait.

  • jaycifer@lemmy.world
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    15 days ago

    This is a messy but interesting question to sort my thoughts on. First, I did date a non-binary person for a couple years and ended things on good terms. I’m AMAB, they’re AFAB on testosterone. I’ll admit I felt a little weird as their transition took effect over time with thicker leg hair and a peach fuzz mustache.

    Second, I’ve considered myself a sex-positive asexual person since I learned the term, so I’m not certain I should be answering this. I’ve always been confused when someone is called hot, but I like the mental/emotional intimacy and physical touch of sex. I’ve come to realize recently that I’d probably be okay being intimate with a woman or feminine partner with a dick, but since I would like to have kids some day it wouldn’t really work for a romantic relationship.

    Third, that partner has half-jokingly said that you have to be a little gay to date them, so I don’t know that any person that would date a non-binary person can call themself 100% straight, which means technically nobody should be answering this question at all :P

    • GalacticGrapefruit@lemmy.world
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      15 days ago

      Ace enby lesbian here. I generally feel the same way. I’m attracted to femininity, equipment really doesn’t factor into how I feel about a woman. Or about femme-presenting people in general. I just think girls are pretty.

  • TaterTot@piefed.socialEnglish
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    17 days ago

    Yeah, if we were into each other. How they present and their AGAB matching my own preferences would be a factor.

    But at the end of the day, my “straightness” is just a convenient label. If someone gets voted in by the Tribunal (Heart, Mind, and Cock), all labels are ultimately superfluous.

  • OriginEnergySux@lemmy.world
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    17 days ago

    I would but only if there’s no drama (their personality). Dont know what AGAB is but as long as we’re both focused on building our future together, sounds golden mate

  • Mothra@mander.xyz
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    17 days ago

    Yes.

    I see two scenarios. One, they catfish me if they can pass for a regular straight man. How I react to this when I find out will depend a lot on their personality and how everything unfolded, but it’s very likely I’d be very angry about them lying.

    The other scenario is one in which our personalities click really well, so well we would be besties. But the advances would theirs. Again, how I respond to these advances would vary a lot but if we already have that exceptional affinity then it’s likely to go well. I think looks would be important here, they don’t need to look masculine but they would need to have somewhat conventionally attractive features. I’m boring and limited like that, sorry.

  • venusaur@lemmy.world
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    17 days ago

    I’d be surprised if a straight dude would date a non-binary person with a dick. Less surprised but similarly with straight women and vaginas.

  • LibertyLizard@slrpnk.net
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    17 days ago

    Depends if they have a pussy. In general most non-binary people I’ve met haven’t been particularly androgynous. Which is one of the reasons they confuse me.

    But yeah if they’ve got the body type I enjoy and a good personality then sure. No way I could make a universal statement though.

    • ClusterBomb@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
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      16 days ago

      Yep. There’s a general confusion between gender identity and gender expression, that’s why you “expect” non-binary to look androgynous. But indeed, a nonbinary can have a cisman-passing or a ciswoman-passing. I am non-binary and I “look like a man” and it causes me to be insulted or mocked when I go out with makeup or wearing a skirt.

      But yeah basically all you need to understand is that gender identity does not have to match a gender expression.