i kind of want a new name but its so hard to pick one. what name do i look like i would have?
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Alice
You look like an Allison / Aly to me!
I thought Anna, but I think that is not too common in the US. So I think I’m agreeing with this the most 😊
(Just noticed: maybe they are not in the US as well. Even I as a German think US centric online, weird.)
I thought this too before I came to the comments!!
Bridget?
I see a camera! Tell me more! Show your work! You have the attention of a lifelong devoted photographer.
Also, I’m Tanis, pronounced TAH-niss, and there needs to be more of me with that name in the world!
That’s my Pentax P3.
I’m not a great photographer, but here are a couple of my favorite photos I’ve taken with that camera
You’ve got a solid eye for composition! Keep it up!
Just saying, blahaj zone has a fediverse based photography instance http://photos.blahaj.zone/
I’d love to see more people upgrading photos there than just me :)
Emily? Elle? I say Elle because in the second picture you look like Elle Fanning, to my eyes at least. :) Cute berry vest :)
I like emily a lot, I feel like its maybe too much of a trans stereotypical name though. Elle is pretty good, I’ll add it to my list
Kate/Katy.
Also, nice kitty. I demand more cat tax.
Ooh I’d spell it katie but I like that.
Here’s roof cat
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You’re super pretty, wow!
Maybe Amanda? Sophie? Kayleigh?
Idk this is so random 😭
Sophie’s pretty good, I don’t really like eigh names and i feel like im the wrong generation for amanda. I’ll definitely add sophie to my list though
It’s a geat pick! Totally not biased :)
Sophie/ Sophia came to my mind too, Emelyn (probably too French?) Somehow I could an Amy too? 😊
Celeste
Chloe?
Hmmm, currently the top of my list already and people keep suggesting it. Definitely considering it
Elena?
Ive thought for a couple days and i keep coming back to hanah or hannah, i really like that one for you ❤️❤️
Did you end up deciding on one?
Not yet, I think chloe and natalie are my favorites so ill probably try one of those for a while
Grace, because you are graceful.
I wonder if this is of any help… But sometime parents have names planned before the child is born, and they might have had thought of two. Have you asked them if you had a female name before your birth?
In any case… Damn, you’ve got style! And sorry I cannot be useful with directly suggesting names. My mother tongue is not English, so all names I’d intuitively come up with would be all weird for an English-speaker.
I wanted to do that, but when I tried to come out to my parents my mom started saying like “well my identity is having a son!!” so now im just pretending to not be trans around them
Uff, sorry to hear that. Hope they will come around and educate themself a bit about you. Best of luck, Emma (?)
“well my identity is having a son!!”
My mom said that if’d been born a girl my name would have been Alice. I don’t need it, so you can have it if you want
But @thisisbutaname, if you give up your name you’ll have nothing left!
Poor woman, she had a 50% chance of having to live with no identity at all.
Jesus christ how pathetic of your mom. hugs
Wow.
Well as a dad, I hereby officially declare you as fine just the way you are.
It’s ok to struggle as a parent with your kid’s sexuality/identity if you don’t fully understand things. It’s NOT ok to make it about yourself and stand in between your child and happiness.
Tell your mom an internet stranger said “shame on you” and bonus points if you throw a handful of glitter in the air as you walk away.
Edit: Taylor?
…huh!
That is awful! You’re seriously unlucky with your parents. But you’ve got so much strength in you to be able to ask these questions. And to answer to my comment.
Admirable!
Boring straight cis reporting in: I guess I knew it was a step in the process, but never really thought about the feelings part of choosing a new name for yourself. That’s awesome! It’s got to feel empowering. How far along the journey do most people get to that part?
It varies person to person, i had a name years before HRT, some dont decide a name until hrt. And even some others end up changing it howevet many times until its right.
Some people decide names themselves. I personally had my partner pick mine, because it felt more right to me that someone else decides my name. I mean, thats how it works at birth, so it makes more sense to me. But thats not for everyone, and some would rather choose their own
Also just to say, you being here in the first place makes you not just a “boring straight cis” person. Thanks for taking the time to learn, and engage with us. Thats all we want in the end, just to feel that were part of society as much as anyone else. Your engagement means the world to us ❤️❤️
I personally had my partner pick mine,
Wow, same with me! Nice to meet another sister who got named the same way - this manner of naming seems to be very rare overall…
I think I subconsciously added the ‘boring’ part simply to make clear the fact that I didn’t consider the ‘straight cis’ part to be in any way superior, like a title of prestige or anything. I dream of the day when this sort of thing is put in the same category as learning that someone is left-handed. It’s a point of notice given the rarity, but it will never change someone’s opinion of you after learning that. No accommodations really need to be made at this point, because the fraction of the population that is left-handed has long since been accounted for and designed around. The most complete level of acceptance that can be reached for any concept is when it can be safely ignored while still acknowledging that it exists. I feel like we’re nearly there with gay people, in that, it’s something that can be mentioned without changing your tone of voice at the office. There’s clearly still work to do though, and I’m glad to help out however I’m able. You just keep being you.
