Bit of a shower thought: Outside of limited circumstances, like interviews or therapy, nobody is really expected to give you honest feedback on how you come across.
This sucks. I’ve been told I come across as unfriendly once, but I have no idea if I was just nervous and tired at the time. I still cherish that one moment almost 10 years ago when someone told me I was funny in some corporate team building bs.
Now, I could ask friends and family, but I believe they would probably not tell me the full, honest truth. After all, they (hopefully) like me and I would probably avoid being too harsh to everyone but very close people in private.
At the same time, I know plenty of people who really should get some feedback, who probably believe they are funny while everyone is bored and annoyed and hopes they talk a little less and the like.
So, are there socially accepted ways to get feedback on how you come across?
I realize that people are strange, relationships are hard, P!=NP and anime is not real. Still, it would be nice to have.
That’s not true though. Some dogs hate me but most love me. Dogs have personalities just like people and as such, many are straight up assholes. Usually they are owned by straight up asshole humans. And in any case dogs do not share any universal opinion.
It’s just something I was always told. If you own a dog and the dog doesn’t like your friend, it is a red flag. They are empaths. I am really talking about big dogs. The little ones are less reliable. I know the personality of a person rubs off on the dog. But there isn’t really science behind this. Just something I observed. There really is no such thing as a bad person. Just people who do bad things. But a lot of the time dogs will pick up on Sketchy people before we do.
Right, I’ve heard that too, and I agree there is some truth to it, I just don’t think it’s reliable.