I’m a butch transbian. I’ve been thinking a lot lately about my butch identity, and how my experiences with butchness overlaps and maybe differs in some areas to my non-transfemme butch siblings. For example:
- We’ve likely grown up with very different bodies and genitals, and that has impacted our relationship to our butchness
- Our struggle with presenting butch in a way that doesn’t get us misgendered or give us dysphoria
- Dealing with the pressure from outside transfemme circles and inside to present more feminine
- Feeling like a fraud in lesbian spaces, because I feel like I’m dressing like a “man”, despite knowing that butch identity is a whole separate thing.
- Fearing exclusion from cis lesbians, what if they think im a cis dude creeping around?
- The lack of representation for butchness in transfemmininty
- How do other butch transfemmes feel about femminine clothing?
- How do we feel about compliments? Beautiful vs handsome?
- Feeling tension between wanting to present more feminine in some ways to “escape” the masculinity I was imprisoned by growing up.
I would love to hear about any thoughts and experiences you’ve got.
Being transfemme isn’t about presentation, but about one’s body and/or identity. Personally, I’m a t-girl who likes to wear androgynous/masc-leaning clothes sometimes.
Regardless of my current attire, I’m a woman. A butch is a lesbian who presents very in a very masculine way, and a trans woman who likes other women is a lesbian.
If a transgender lesbian presents masc, then they can be a butch.
Of course, all of this is entirely made up, and it doesn’t really matter :3
@strawberry_enjoyer42
Okay. Thanks - i understand now, where the mistake comes probably from.
As I said before- I‘m not native english-speaking.
In my area „femme“ seems to be used mor as opposite of „butch“. So i don‘t know „transfemme“ this way - it was always „transwoman“, sometimes „transgirl“, never „transfemme“.
Sorry for this.
@strawberry_enjoyer42 and thanks for this quiet explain 💜