Many stories are heavily one sided. We only ever get one person’s side of the story and that person experienced it in one way and often doesn’t take the other person’s side into account. Not necessarily because they’re a bad person, but because that’s just how humans are. We don’t often put ourselves in someone else’s shoes and look at the situation differently or can always give someone else the benefit of the doubt.

“My boyfriend left last night without saying goodbye which he never does so obviously this means something is wrong.” When in reality, he did say goodbye, but we just couldn’t hear it over the sound of the TV in the other room. Everyone hearing the story agrees that is weird behavior and jumps to the worst conclusion along with the OP.

And then it just being the internet, people often go to the extreme on things and everyone has their own perspective from their own experiences and cultures around the world. One guy hears a story of a woman going out with her friends and he remembers how his girlfriend from years ago used to do that and she was actually cheating on him, so of course his trauma has him viewing that story through his own lens and going to the worst possible conclusion.

People forget details which can make things sound worse than they are, or they just forget to include some things that don’t always seem relevant which can greatly impact how a situation actually unfolded and give others the wrong idea. “We had an argument last night about something stupid that he’s jealous of me hanging out with my girlfriends”, neglecting to mention that he has a valid reason because you were doing some suspicious things years ago in this same way. Anyone hearing the story from your point of view is going to conclude you are the victim there without that additional context you neglected to include.

And then it just is how it is. What other advice can people realistically give? Stay with them is the only other alternative most people can muster up. Beyond that, go to therapy and that’s it. No one really has much else to offer in the way of sympathy and judgment. No one realistically knows how to navigate someone else’s relationship and all its unique dynamics, let alone their own relationships and all the variables life throws at them. We often only ever think a situation only has two options and nothing else, “break up or stay together”.

Why exactly does this need to run a full OS?

I’d like this. There’s always some obscure movies you can’t get that someone else may have that aren’t yet on torrent sites.

It took me over a decade to find Who Made the Potatoe Salad until it finally popped up on some torrent site a few years ago. Would have been nice to have this for that and to share some of my obscure movies too. I have a wide collection still just sitting on my shelf since it’s all digital now.

In case if the coop ever gets shut down or I lose my membership, it’d be nice to have a reliable database so I can get my movies back.

She’s been outed as not being the nice person she appears to be on TV. There was a big controversy a few years ago that some of her crew had a lot of stories about her behaviors behind the camera that show that she wasn’t such a nice person to the people who helped make her show a reality.

I don’t remember specifics, but it’s not hard to find if you go looking for videos or articles on it. From what I remember, it was the typical diva sort of behaviors like don’t look her in the eye and being rude to others. Nothing too too serious like sexual assault but still not nice stuff and people view her as a phony since.

There were also some things she did to guests like when she “forced” Mariah Carey to reveal she was pregnant by offering her alcohol and Mariah basically had to admit she was pregnant as to why she wouldn’t drink alcohol. Kind of a shitty thing to do to someone.

I know the pain, but both of those touchless options always suck. The water never stays on or doesn’t turn on unless you motion in one specific weird spot that’s either too close or too far away. And those dryers never dry your hands well enough. I’m grateful they never had touchless doors in the same way.

Though I have seen newer foot style doors that have a small piece of metal at the bottom you can “grab” and pull open.

Try the “forgot your password” link on his iCloud account. When you go to iCloud.com, there’s a link there for it. There might be some way that you can reset the iCloud account and get in that way. Most of these methods have you verify you own the account like a link in an email or text to the phone or something. Worth a try to see especially since you physically have the phone.

If he left his iPhone with the messages showing on the screen even when locked, you may be lucky and get to send a text to the phone and get a code to reset the iCloud account that way.

Either that or going through Apple may be your best bet since the pics are likely backed up to his Apple’s iCloud. Apple gives everyone free 5GB so surely there’s something there even if he didn’t pay for it or it lapsed after his passing.

I got this idea from the San Bernardino shooters years ago. Apple refused to help the FBI hack into the phone but said they would help if the FBI let the phone back up to iCloud at night like this because it’d be on their servers and technically theirs to comply with.

So it seems this might be some type of legitimate way of getting stuff out of an iPhone like this by Apple’s own admission. I just checked and Apple does have an article on this exact situation and what they can and cannot do https://support.apple.com/en-us/102431

My condolences to you and your family. Good luck getting those pictures.

There’s a decent chance that the iPhone syncs to iCloud each night. It’s a feature Apple kind of snuck onto people and most people don’t change. Photos are one of those things that gets backed up during this time.

Thing is, you need to get it connected to WiFi that it has connected to before and just leave it on the charger, probably best to do this over 48 hours and then try getting in. The backups usually happen at night time.

If you know the WiFi where he lived but can’t access it, you could trick the iPhone into thinking it’s the same WiFi by creating that same WiFi signal name and password and the iPhone will connect to that new hotspot you create with the same instructions. If it’s valuable enough to you, you could buy a router and set it up on yours at home with that information or go cheap and set it up on your phone’s hotspot. If you don’t know that one, any other WiFi network it once connected to should do. It just only works over WiFi at night.

Once that happens, you can try resetting his password on iCloud.com and see if that lets you in. Or see if Apple can help you getting into the iCloud account with his death certificate. I’m not sure on that last part, might need to check into it before asking just to make sure they don’t lock you out of it or something.

You may not even have to do the WiFi trick, it might already have backed up everything already and you can try getting into this iCloud account now and see if the pictures are there. They’re accessible over any web browser on any operating system.