I agree with having the server run Proxmox like others have said. Check out these YouTube channels for helpful information/guides:

LearnLinuxTV

LawrenceSystems

CraftComputing

Makes sense. Trained on software engineers working that pattern for decades.

I would suggest couples counseling with a therapist that has experience with ADHD clients.

I just started playing with Dockhand and it looks like it has a built in update schedule mechanism. It’s fills a comparable role as Portainer, so maybe check that out.

Funny how tools are useful. But a person who is a tool is not.

Any reason you need to encrypt the host OS information? I would assume anything interesting would be in the VM and you could probably have the VM encrypt it’s own storage.

Part of me is bothered by those explanations, but if I had to explain GitHub to a tech illiterate grandparent with that much screen space I don’t know if I would do much better.

When mine did that it required a battery replacement. Got replacement from this site: https://batterysharks.com/. Also, maybe you should stop doing things that aren’t absolutely necessary until you’ve taken a nap.