I agree that “RTFM” can be insensitive, and even mean. However, the place it comes from is genuine. It’s nobodies job to tell you exactly what page to look at. If you’ve dug through the docs and still can’t find your answer, make it explicit that you’ve searched the manual, and perhaps be explicit about parts you don’t quite understand.
The whole “RTFM” thing was born from people asking for help when they obviously hadn’t made a proper try themselves first.






Awake people can preemptively consent to being woken up however they like. Source: I have actively requested and enjoyed being woken up like this.
Not an edit: I REALLY hate it when other people try to tell me what I can and cannot consent to, so this personally grinds my gears.