Back when I was a kid, they’d judge your kid and give you whatever they thought corresponded to the kid’s genitalia. Even when I heard my mother ask for a car toy I’d end up with a Barbie.
Being constantly disappointed by Barbie toys may have been my first hint I wasn’t a girl.
The whole point of this post is that neither toy is boy/girl
Being constantly disappointed by Barbie toys may have been my first hint I wasn’t a girl
You didn’t like a certain toy. It shouldn’t hint at anything
What I don’t understand about the whole transgender thing is that being transgender means most of the time you have to lean hard into the gender stereotypes.
A boy that wants to be a girl, pink and dresses that wants to play with Barbies.
There is absolutely nothing in someone’s DNA telling them that they want to wear a pink dress and play with a barbie. That’s all society stereotypes.
I get the idea of thinking certain genitalia isn’t right for your body and not wanting it.
But thinking “I like to wear pink dresses and play with barbies, I must be a girl” to me just seems like the completely wrong way to look at genders.
Thank you for explaining my experiences at age 4. Here I thought that was when I started figuring out I wasn’t a girl but I was clearly wrong and it took you opening my eyes 30 years later. I’m not transgender after all. I can’t point to anything in my DNA that makes me trans, therefore I must just be play acting my gender. I was a girl that didn’t like Barbie and everything else has been a lie fed to me by the woke liberalism of the 90s. /sarcasm
Boys can like barbies too. We can acknowledge that gender stereotyping kid’s interests was wrong, while acknowledging that their interests don’t always define their gender.
No shit, my boy wanted a Barbie when he was little, so he had a Barbie. He also had Legos, and played with blocks, board games and eventually video games. Let kids play with whatever the fuck they want to, they are exploring.
Yes, but I didn’t like Barbie toys. That was my first hint I didn’t fit into the gender box that had been prepared for me. I’m not going to retcon my experiences at the age of 4 to fit into a modern concept of how I should have figured out my gender.
As a trans woman that played with Barbie’s in secret as a kid…
We can acknowledge that stereotyping toys is dumb, while also acknowledging that kids like me knew those stereotypes, and did it anyways not knowing why.
It’s great to point out its stupid. But is comes really fucking close to denying trans people the signs they were trans young, even we didn’t even know it.
Thanks for putting that into words. It felt like I was being told “um, actually, have you considered that disliking Barbie isn’t tied to being a boy?” (with an undercurrent of “this reason for thinking you might be trans is invalid”.)
I strongly suspect that wasn’t the intent of the commenter, they were trying to encourage inclusivity. It just fell flat.
Back when I was a kid, they’d judge your kid and give you whatever they thought corresponded to the kid’s genitalia. Even when I heard my mother ask for a car toy I’d end up with a Barbie.
Being constantly disappointed by Barbie toys may have been my first hint I wasn’t a girl.
The whole point of this post is that neither toy is boy/girl
You didn’t like a certain toy. It shouldn’t hint at anything
What I don’t understand about the whole transgender thing is that being transgender means most of the time you have to lean hard into the gender stereotypes.
A boy that wants to be a girl, pink and dresses that wants to play with Barbies.
There is absolutely nothing in someone’s DNA telling them that they want to wear a pink dress and play with a barbie. That’s all society stereotypes.
I get the idea of thinking certain genitalia isn’t right for your body and not wanting it.
But thinking “I like to wear pink dresses and play with barbies, I must be a girl” to me just seems like the completely wrong way to look at genders.
Thank you for explaining my experiences at age 4. Here I thought that was when I started figuring out I wasn’t a girl but I was clearly wrong and it took you opening my eyes 30 years later. I’m not transgender after all. I can’t point to anything in my DNA that makes me trans, therefore I must just be play acting my gender. I was a girl that didn’t like Barbie and everything else has been a lie fed to me by the woke liberalism of the 90s. /sarcasm
That was me, too. I ended up just tossing this whole gender concept out.
I have to say, the hot wheels were hot wheels and the Barbies were ugly statues. One was superior.
Exactly. Moving parts vs a hunk of plastic to toss in a drawer.
Boys can like barbies too. We can acknowledge that gender stereotyping kid’s interests was wrong, while acknowledging that their interests don’t always define their gender.
No shit, my boy wanted a Barbie when he was little, so he had a Barbie. He also had Legos, and played with blocks, board games and eventually video games. Let kids play with whatever the fuck they want to, they are exploring.
This right TF here. He-Man, She-Ra, G.I.-Joe and My Little Pony were all part of the same universe when they were toys on my floor.
Yes, but I didn’t like Barbie toys. That was my first hint I didn’t fit into the gender box that had been prepared for me. I’m not going to retcon my experiences at the age of 4 to fit into a modern concept of how I should have figured out my gender.
As a trans woman that played with Barbie’s in secret as a kid…
We can acknowledge that stereotyping toys is dumb, while also acknowledging that kids like me knew those stereotypes, and did it anyways not knowing why.
It’s great to point out its stupid. But is comes really fucking close to denying trans people the signs they were trans young, even we didn’t even know it.
Thanks for putting that into words. It felt like I was being told “um, actually, have you considered that disliking Barbie isn’t tied to being a boy?” (with an undercurrent of “this reason for thinking you might be trans is invalid”.)
I strongly suspect that wasn’t the intent of the commenter, they were trying to encourage inclusivity. It just fell flat.