30 something woman here, apparently I masturbate a lot compared to my friends.
I have to say “yeah once a week too” when they raise the subject ,when in fact it is multiple times a day. Husband would also do 2 times a day if he kept to his “normal” cadence. I know “whatever works for me” is right, but I’d like to compare to other people my age that aren’t my friends.
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30s male - Most days, sometimes multiple times. Lately it’s been a lot. Not sure what that’s about.
It’s a sin so never. /s
I’m a 48yo guy but for what it’s worth, when I don’t masturbate it’s usually a sign of depression.
Once or twice a day sounds normal to me, like going to the toilets.Satisfying sex will satiate me for much longer than a quick wank though.
I’d comment on my wife but I think her aphantasia and almost complete ignorance of porn makes her particularly uncommon, regarding masturbation.
Guy in my 20s. I do it about 3-4 times a week sometimes less. Usually not 2 days in a row. I don’t think my gf does it at all sadly.
Currently with new partner and am not feeling the need hardly ever. It’s been maybe two weeks. FYI she is 30something and is the same. We were both ‘once a day occasionally twice’ before we met. I feel my penis needs a bit of a break sometimes heh.
If it does not interfere with your life, then it’s not a problem.
Might be a hot take, but:
- Sex is completely normal and natural.
- Most of the sex addiction discourse is astroturfed by christian fundamentalists.
- Most of the sex addiction stories I’ve read so far is just people wishing their life back before they had those weird urges, that came at a time they’re way too immature for them mentally.
- Unless you’re some variant of asexual, you will have sexual needs. They’re hardwired into you. Please them as long as
- the way of pleasing them won’t harm you,
- it doesn’t violate someone’s consent.
- The “grindset” is toxic, people should work less than 40 hours/week by this point, not 100 hours. The problem isn’t too much time for sex but rather not enough time for it.
Do note: many asexuals also have sexual needs.
Asexuality by default is the absence of physical attraction, but hormones pay a part in many other functions in the body.
Also, because of the culture I’m in unwillingly (thanks puritans who founded this country), it feels really weird to have urges, but never want to have sex in any way.
I believe a person without urges is refered to as alibidoist.
This comment is less for you, and possibly for others like me who misinterpretted the words growing up and think they are somehow different enough to be alone when there are people with all sorts of experiences all over the spectrum.
cis man here. I’d say everyone should either have sex or masturbate once a day. but the thought of multiple times a day feels exhausting. if you have the time and are happy with it though, don’t let peer pressure make you feel any bad. actually I’d push against my friends and say once a day confidently. maybe that’s what they’re missing in their lives. act like they’re the crazy ones. like why not?
20s XY man here, 2-3 times a day is perfect, but sometimes down to 1
Gf (20s XX woman) can do anything from once a month to twice a day depending on the horniness
I’m a man in my 30s and I do around 5x per week.
When I was a teenager and early 20s, a few times a day, tbh. Holy shit, when I was a teenager, i was so fucking horny, like all the fucking time. then my twenties were the same, my thirties were very very different. these days? Almost never anymore. Just don’t have a libido anymore :/ I am a bit of an old codger though. So maybe that explains it?
personally, 3-4 times a day.
that’s mostly because the world is going to shit and I need that dopamine boost.
Good hit of my weed pen and I’m masterbating for hours, not continuous, when I get off there’s a cool down time where I watch TV and then switch back and resume.
could be ADHD and a lack of dopamine
20s male. Generally once per day but I find it’s easier and easier to forget and I sometimes go a week without thinking about it. I rarely if ever do 2. I’ve gotta cool down for 20 minutes between, which gives a lot of time to realise I should be doing something else.
1-2 daily sounds totally within normal range.
normal to do it a few times a day.
32M single, at least once a week. But there are periods where I get super horny and do the deed several days in succession (once per day, probably 3 days a week), these usually happen every 1-2 months.
After seeing the replies here I wonder if my libido is lower than average.
