20s male. Generally once per day but I find it’s easier and easier to forget and I sometimes go a week without thinking about it. I rarely if ever do 2. I’ve gotta cool down for 20 minutes between, which gives a lot of time to realise I should be doing something else.

1-2 daily sounds totally within normal range.

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I used to masturbate every day when I was going through T puberty, that really messes with your sex drive. Once I started E I started doing it like once or twice a week, once I started prog it made me more horny, but more of a tingly feeling all over my body. It was something that was nice to wallow in, so I didn’t feel a pressure to masturbate so often either. And since i have a partner, I don’t need to masturbate very often at all

I mean, I’m an asexual and sex-repulsed person, so I don’t get horny, let alone masturbate, ever.

However, there are also men and women in this world that do that shit constantly.

So I don’t know, anything between “never” and “constantly,” inclusive, is a normal amount.

As a married man, more than I would like to. My wife has wonky hormones and she’s only in the mood right after her period. The doctor has me on bi-weekly testosterone shots that I stretch out into 4 weeks because they make me all horned up. It sucks when you can’t get somewhere to take care of that distracting urge.

Working with attractive young women doesn’t help either. Dear God I don’t know what happened. Suddenly I feel like that creepy old dude.

I’m grossing myself out.

It’s more a question of why, and whether that represents something functional, or something that gets in the way of other things you want to do, or should be doing.

That’s what defines addiction; whether it’s stopping you from a lifestyle that would make your spirit happy. Basically does it get in the way or put you somewhere you don’t enjoy being?

Because there’s reason, the body, and the spirit… and they don’t always agree. So making the right choice on who to listen to is important.

…for a lot of people masturbating is their primary cope (way of dealing with stress), and it limits them. They might get a fuller life if they diversified into coping via hobbies, exercise, meditation, social activities, or self-knowledge/mastery (eg. Why do I do this?).

This gets into the question of if/when, and how to change habits.

However, it’s also perfectly possible what you do is just your jam, and you should just keep (literally) doing you.

fellow lady in her late 30’s. Once a day for me, nearly everyday. It takes me about 60 seconds to climax, and I move on to my day. I dont think what youre doing is too much, even if there is such a thing. I can even make myself cum with just thoughts only, if im stoned enough late at night in bed. Ive had some radical climaxing from thoughts alone.

dont compare yourself to others, you good :)

As long as it isn’t interfering with your life, flick that bean. It’s not hurting anyone.

You don’t need to compare yourself to others. They’re not you. Twice a day doesn’t sound excessive to me. 20 times a day might, but twice? It’s your body.

Also keep in mind female masturbation has, until recently, been discouraged by western culture as deviant. It may be that some of your friends are downplaying their own regularity for social pressure (you already mentioned you vocally agree with what they say – others are probably doing that, too).

I do it every month or so for the dopamine, but I’m asexual. I’d say even a few times every day is fine. If you think it’s disruptive to your life, I’d recommend therapy, but that’s like if you can’t focus in a meeting because you haven’t done it for an hour and that’s all you can think about. Otherwise, just enjoy yourself. You’re fine.

Do you have ADHD? If you do than you’re probably just chasing dopamine. Doesn’t mean you’re doing it an unhealthy amount, but if you’re doing it cuz you’re ‘bored’ not, ‘horny’ than that’s probably why.

Me personally it aches afterwards if I jack it too many times in one day. I don’t know about women. I imagine uterine walls can only handle so much dildo friction while clits can only handle so much vibrator stim before they start complaining.

I also think what kind of porn you consume, if any, can be a factor. Like when I go long stints away from the wife watching porn I get desensitized mentally and seek out more intense content. I think depending on the person and the content it can have negative mental effects if overdone.

Well, if you mean normal as a synonym for typical or common, then a couple of times a week is where most adult, premenopausal women sit. Or, those that were willing to take part in surveys, which could skew things.

If you mean normal as a synonym for healthy, then normal is whatever frequency meets your sexual needs without interfering with the rest of your life.

Women tend to masturbate more as an enhancement of their sex life, supposedly (I didn’t do the studies, so I can only say so much). Which means that you might masturbate more often when having a satisfying sex life with partners. Men tend to have an upper limit to ejaculation frequency that tops out with a couple of times a day for most men before they can’t get an erection; the body just says nope and takes a rest. Three, maybe four ejaculations is where the average guy can crank some out, and most can’t sustain that every day.

Mind you, men can orgasm without ejaculation! But it ain’t easy to learn.

Women tend to be limited more by sensitivity and friction. The tissues of vulvae, vaginas, and clitorises gets abraded at some point, and with the elevated sensitivity brought on by orgasm, the typical woman is going to hit a similar limit as men in terms of sessions, but a higher number of orgasms may be involved per session. But! Those tissues recover quickly, so women are usually able to sustain their preferred frequency no matter how many a day it is, as the next day will have things back to typical conditions (again, on average).

So, if you’re an every day kinda gal, don’t worry. You’re within known boundaries of frequency. As long as it isn’t messing with the rest of your life, have fun and let the other people think what they will.

Not only do people vary but individuals vary over time. I’ve been as frequent as you and now several decades later it’s more like a couple of times a month. Hormones play a huge role. Women are often judged for having a libido, and also judged for being frigid, along with every other goddamn thing we do or don’t do in life.

It’s a huge spectrum and as others have said, whatever is your normal is normal. 40 year old man here on the opposite end of the spectrum, maybe once or twice a month. Normal testosterone levels and healthy, always just had a lower sex drive.

30 something guy here.

I oscillate. Usually somewhere between once every 2 days and 3x/day.

However, I’ve noticed that I feel almost no urge to masturbate when I spend a lot of time in nature - eg, on long backpacking trips. My theory is that - while there is nothing really wrong with masturbation - what is actually happening is that I am masturbating to counteract the stress of modern life. If I feel tired or lonely or anxious or sad, my brain knows it can feel happy chemicals just by beatin’ the ol’ bishop.

In this way, it feels similar to hunger. Sometimes I eat because I need food. But the vast majority of the time, I eat because I feel a compulsion to make myself feel good by eating.

So it might be worth considering if your desire of masturbate is coming from actual horniness, or a desire for some form of enjoyable escape from the moment you are in.

Usually 1 or 2 times a day, more often 1.

50 something guy here. Are you and your husband good? I’ve been married over 30 years, and obviously things ebb and flow. We recently tried having sex at least once a day for a solid year straight. We learned a lot about each other and found neither of us needed to masturbate.

TL;DR Why aren’t you two just fucking a lot?