cross-posted from: https://lemmygrad.ml/post/11286054
Hello everyone, I have an update on my situation: My father (the arrogant dog that broke into my room several times and has done other immoral things that are illegal) is pressuring me to get a job or go to school (some college) in THIS ECONOMY, and I am really stressed out (maybe even depressed) because I do not know what to do. I kind of want to make a Bluesky account because it is social media and I could ask for help there or something (and it might have more people to talk to). Any advice would be helpful.
I live in America as a 20 year old Asian enby (I think?), and I am not sure what I want to do besides leave the house my parents live in (they are humongous jerks). The issue with me moving out is that I do not have any job prospects (I am thinking of quitting college), many connections (I only talk to a few people online), or a mentally sound mind (I have PTSD and depression among other things). What should I do?
Edit: I live in Florida and wish I could move out of America (because fascism is awful) but I have no money and might have student debt (if I understand how Bright Futures works). The job market in America is well-known for being thoroughly broken, so I am kinda ruined in that regard.
Edit 2: The reason why I want to leave is due to both not wanting to be constantly triggered by the annoying things my other family members do (having parents that do not understand that I do not want them to break into my room [not in this house, but it is a different story, so ask if you want to know the story] is an example) and also the fact that my parents actually did some really horrible stuff in the past that the police did not help me with. My parents are honesty a big part of why I have such severe mental issues (yet they are so emotionally ignorant that it grates my brain every time I try to talk to them or ignore them).
Edit 3: The particular mental illnesses that I likely have (because I never got a diagnosis for any of them) are PTSD, OCD (including a particularly nasty form that causes me to fear a certain group of people), Generalized Anxiety Disorder (not sure if social anxiety is included), and likely several others. I am also likely on the autism spectrum. All of these make jobs that would be easy to others come across as difficult to me.
Justice would probably be at least a temporarily relief, but like you said, unlikely under capitalism. I hope you get justice one day.
Mind that I’m not professional in this area, but in my experience, I’d recommend first finding that safe space where your main stressors are no longer affecting your life. Change of environment will aid in healing. You’ll still have flashbacks, it’s a long road, but it’ll get easier when you’re not around your stressors. The tricky part is how you can do this without steady income.
I’m sure after weighing your options you’ll come up with a plan that helps you into that safe place you deserve. I wish strength to you.
Yeah, I am feeling very wrathful about it, but expecting capitalist dogs to help me out was really asking for too much.
What sort of safe space would you recommend? Honestly, I only have a small amount of money, and even homeless shelters (which are kind of awful due to funding being cut by republicans) are not what I would call “within walking distance”.
I know that the only real option is to leave at a certain point, though I do not know how to take the steps to do so. I just know that I need to get my passport somehow (one of my parents has it).
I’m not sure what I’d recommend, except that you do need that distance to your stressors. You know better if for example homeless shelter is suitable for this or not.
Personally if I was in need of a safe space I’d approach relatives who I have warm relations with, comrades, other friendly people, and seek that way out through them. I’d list my options, order them from most to least desired, then separate this list into two lists: what are in my reach right now, and what has some obstacles to overcome. After this I’d probably have some plan, and few alternatives if things go wrong.
Perhaps you could try mapping out your options in similar fashion? And yes, do get hold of your passport!
Yes, I do think getting my passport is one of my first priorities. Also, my stuff is at a certain location, so I have to get there as well. Unfortunately, no real relatives are particularly close with me, so help from them is unlikely. I will figure out a list of priorities though, so thanks.
Edit: The context behind me not having my passport is that my parent (not sure which one) bought it, and they have possession of it, so who owns it is a bit ambiguous to me.
You need it to register to vote.
Hmm? But I registered to vote without my passport in the 2024 election (though I do not remember how).
ID requirements are different now.
Woah really? Could you explain?
Check voter registration requirements in your state. Sometimes a passport works as ID. I’m trying to help you get creative. Maybe you temporarily misplaced your state ID/DL.