I tried making a Reddit account and it asked me to build karma before I could ask on any of the relevant subs so I’m posting here.
I can personally say that if anything goes up there, it hurts, and not in a good way. It does not feel pleasurable at all. It feels kind of like placing a finger on an open sore and pushing down.
Also, if you’re being examined, they tell you to take deep breaths, as if they know that anything going up is going to be painful. If sex is supposed to be pleasurable and enjoyable, why would doctors tell you to brace for impact, so to speak?
Lastly, women often scream during sex. It’s often said they’re screaming out of pleasure and not pain. But there are a lot of things I find extremely pleasurable, but I don’t scream while I do them.
Is it just one of those things that is painful but we’re conditioned into believing the pain is actually pleasure and I must have inconsistent pain tolerance and I am making a big deal out of this?
To tag on a relevant other point, I’ll mention that many people find the stimulation of the outside of the vagina and inside walls to be the pleasurable part rather than the “poking” of the back aka top of the vagina. If it’s just the back of your vagina, e.g the cervix, that hurts to be poked, that is normal. Sexual stimulation makes the vagina expand in size, accommodating the insertion of a penis; sex1 should be gently inserted unless you’ve requested otherwise, being one of the lesser number of receivers who enjoy rough sex - it’s courtesy. It may be the case that your vagina is particularly short and hence you’ve already noticed the discomfort of insertions.
1 also an archaic term for a penis lol, used as such here.