Yeah super cute. Dysphoria is a lying bitch.

My first thought seeing the picture was: Huh she is really pretty and small ADHD thought river into if trans women are generally prettier or if I think so cause I am trans

Don’t let the dysmorphia demon win

pretty girl.

Listen, I’m a straight cis-man, so maybe this is absolutely the wrong thing to say, but hun I think you’re being a little disrespectful to other women right now. I get that you’re self-conscious and going through stuff, and maybe a little anxious based on your username 😛 but there are women I know, including cis-women, that look like you. And so when you call yourself ugly, or say you have an ugly body, I know you’re just being hard on yourself, but it’s also leaking a bit that you think the other women I know are ugly too, that you think of women in this way.

You want to be a big boobie slim build high cheekbone supermodel, I get it, but most women aren’t that. My wife has small boobs, it happens. She’s still a woman, and she’s still great, and I’m very lucky.

I don’t think you’re ugly, but more importantly it doesn’t matter, because even if you were ugly, “ugly” women still matter, still have value, and deserve respect. Including a level of respect you deserve from yourself, not conditional on some surgery someday, but how you are today! Like, get surgery if it’s something important to you and it’s in the cards for you, but don’t get surgery just because you think you can’t be worth something without it.

Women, including yourself, have value outside of prettiness. Outside of jawlines and hourglasses. Dysphoria sounds like a bitch, it does, but I feel you’ve also got a lot of internalized misogyny that’s not helping. Take a look around at the grocery store, the bank, the park, wherever. Try to notice all the women, not just the pretty ones. Not just the “goals”. Not that cashier, the other one. The ones, perhaps, who maybe fade into the background if you’re not paying attention. Learn to appreciate them, their quirks, find nice things about them. They’re people, you’re people, you’ll be okay. As you are, if necessary.

Maybe what I’ve written is shit, maybe this is super dysphoric, maybe this is the worst thing a person like me could possibly write to a person like you, in which case feel free to blow my shit up and moderate it from orbit. If I’ve stepped whole-foot into a cultural ritual I had no place in, if there’s anything I need to read to educate myself, feel free to let me know, or don’t if I’m not even worth that. I’m a visitor in your space. Thank you for your time, and I’m sorry in advance for any negative impact I’ve caused. Love.

I know it doesnt really help to hear, but the feeling ugly is some dysmorphia shit, you very sincerely dont read that way to anyone else. I have compliments to give but I’ll spare you the attempt at convincing, I know thats not the most helpful

Sending hugs and love 🫂 the hoodie dress thing looks super cute on you

She got le-yegs!

I don’t know how dysmorphia fucks with your mind, but I presume it makes it difficult to really…believe(?) all of the sincerity when people like me say you are truly beautiful.

But you really are. You might be measuring yourself against an emotional criteria that is totally inaccessible to me and others on Lemmy, but I really wish just for a moment you could see yourself through our eyes.

I don’t think HRT would’ve made you uglier, it’s probably just the warped perception of yourself, give it enough time and you’ll probably look back at these photos thinking you were prettier, I have photos that I definitely didn’t like when I took them but looking back are completely fine.

I didn’t even notice the cut on your chin until you pointed it out, and no that’s pretty cute actually, it doesn’t make you uglier lol. You’re over focusing on the parts of yourself you don’t like, while most people see the whole, and that way you miss all the many pretty things that more than make up for it.

Edit: Just for some clarification, when I say ‘the parts you don’t like’, I really mean it like that, other people don’t see them in the same way you do, just in case I came off wrong. Anyway, very pretty! <3

I think you look Elvish! Great sweater.

Looking good!

Girl, you so cute (❤ω❤)