Because people don’t want to raise other people’s kids, they want to raise their own.
Not to mention qualifying for adopting is expensive and difficult. Having your own kid is just easier. And adopting older kids is especially difficult because they may have serious mental health and behavior problems.
Further, personally, ever adopted kid I ever knew growing up was a miserable person who was really messed up and blamed their parents (both bio and adopted) for everything rather than took any responsibility for themselves. And when I meet adopted adults, they continue to have major problems in life that they refuse to address and just blame everyone else. I’d never want to invite that kind of misery into my life purposefully.
As an adopted kid, I really hate your generalizing here.
I blamed my parents (all three of them and beyond) and took responsiblity for myself. You kind of have no other choice. I can read the family trauma passed down like a book. The person who adopted me, gave me the most trauma. He did prison time for it. As a child, I needed someone to actually love me, and no one did. When I turned 18 (and let loose) I realized many years later, that there wasnt a single adult I trusted at that age.
I wish I was adopted into a loving home. Its all I ever wanted, instead, I was adopted to a monster. Heaven forbid someone take some time to feel anger about thier shitty life hand. Of course you have to stand up and deal too, but its understandable someone has anger about it. Ive met plenty of cunts who were raised by their bio parents who are angry and violent. Ive never hurt anyone, never been in a fight, never arrested, never did drugs. I struggle just like anyone, and have successes just like anyone. Im proud of me, and a few of my siblings.
Wed have gotten further if some adult actually cared about our well being as children, instead of being seen as burdens.
I mean it’s kind of implicit in the comment, when you point out only the problems. What orphans are supposed to do if they’re problematic? Let it to rot somewhere so they don’t bother anyone else? I don’t understand.
As an adopted kid who was rescued from an abusive environment, and is now an adult, this is a pretty messed up and just mean in its generalization.
If you are a potential parent, and your heart is big enough to let a kid in genuine distress and need be a part of your family and life, like i once was, i beg of you to truly consider the option
Absolutly i had issues coming out of my original household and the foster system, and thankfully with the irrevocable love and skill my foster and then adoptive family put into me, i did change, i was able to heal, i was able to get better.
To forsake all the children is bad, certainly i was difficult for my family, and maybe even more than the average biological kid (even so, ive seen some monsters that were bio-raised, im sure you have too), i came out alright, and i protect and have undying infinite love for my family, the family that adopted me and helped me when and where i needed it, and tolerated me with their love through my struggles
If you are thinking of becoming a parent or adding to your family, you should at least consider adoption, at least seriously ask yourself the question and look up the realities and see if its right for you.
And if, after looking it up, you understand that your heart is not the one that can take in an adopted kid, then you shouldnt adopt, and that is ok too. But if your heart is the kind that can, then please do not be discouraged, contact the foster care agency and tell them youre cautiously curious and you can figure it out further from there.
Because people don’t want to raise other people’s kids, they want to raise their own.
Not to mention qualifying for adopting is expensive and difficult. Having your own kid is just easier. And adopting older kids is especially difficult because they may have serious mental health and behavior problems.
Further, personally, ever adopted kid I ever knew growing up was a miserable person who was really messed up and blamed their parents (both bio and adopted) for everything rather than took any responsibility for themselves. And when I meet adopted adults, they continue to have major problems in life that they refuse to address and just blame everyone else. I’d never want to invite that kind of misery into my life purposefully.
As an adopted kid, I really hate your generalizing here.
I blamed my parents (all three of them and beyond) and took responsiblity for myself. You kind of have no other choice. I can read the family trauma passed down like a book. The person who adopted me, gave me the most trauma. He did prison time for it. As a child, I needed someone to actually love me, and no one did. When I turned 18 (and let loose) I realized many years later, that there wasnt a single adult I trusted at that age.
I wish I was adopted into a loving home. Its all I ever wanted, instead, I was adopted to a monster. Heaven forbid someone take some time to feel anger about thier shitty life hand. Of course you have to stand up and deal too, but its understandable someone has anger about it. Ive met plenty of cunts who were raised by their bio parents who are angry and violent. Ive never hurt anyone, never been in a fight, never arrested, never did drugs. I struggle just like anyone, and have successes just like anyone. Im proud of me, and a few of my siblings.
Wed have gotten further if some adult actually cared about our well being as children, instead of being seen as burdens.
So the solution is like…? Electric chair for all orphans?
Yeah that’s exactly what they proposed.
I mean it’s kind of implicit in the comment, when you point out only the problems. What orphans are supposed to do if they’re problematic? Let it to rot somewhere so they don’t bother anyone else? I don’t understand.
Oh, you’ve met my sister!
As an adopted kid who was rescued from an abusive environment, and is now an adult, this is a pretty messed up and just mean in its generalization.
If you are a potential parent, and your heart is big enough to let a kid in genuine distress and need be a part of your family and life, like i once was, i beg of you to truly consider the option
Absolutly i had issues coming out of my original household and the foster system, and thankfully with the irrevocable love and skill my foster and then adoptive family put into me, i did change, i was able to heal, i was able to get better.
To forsake all the children is bad, certainly i was difficult for my family, and maybe even more than the average biological kid (even so, ive seen some monsters that were bio-raised, im sure you have too), i came out alright, and i protect and have undying infinite love for my family, the family that adopted me and helped me when and where i needed it, and tolerated me with their love through my struggles
If you are thinking of becoming a parent or adding to your family, you should at least consider adoption, at least seriously ask yourself the question and look up the realities and see if its right for you.
And if, after looking it up, you understand that your heart is not the one that can take in an adopted kid, then you shouldnt adopt, and that is ok too. But if your heart is the kind that can, then please do not be discouraged, contact the foster care agency and tell them youre cautiously curious and you can figure it out further from there.