I know two people who had full term still born babies. They both absolutely refer to them as babies and as having given birth. I’m only 6 months pregnant and if I lost the pregnancy at this point I would say I lost my son. He’s very real and alive to me, he moves and touches me many times an hour, already keeps me up every night. He’s a real dude in there.
That said, I’ve had two miscarriages and consider those lost pregnancies, not lost children. I’ve seen people online say things like “mother of 4, 2 in heaven” though.
Having something die inside you can fuck you up forever.
I’ve never met anyone who had a miscarriage or stillborn and still described the experience as having a baby in this way.
I know two people who had full term still born babies. They both absolutely refer to them as babies and as having given birth. I’m only 6 months pregnant and if I lost the pregnancy at this point I would say I lost my son. He’s very real and alive to me, he moves and touches me many times an hour, already keeps me up every night. He’s a real dude in there.
That said, I’ve had two miscarriages and consider those lost pregnancies, not lost children. I’ve seen people online say things like “mother of 4, 2 in heaven” though.
Having something die inside you can fuck you up forever.
How many people from the 1800’s do you know
Personally, or by reputation?
Some women from the 1800s would have described having a miscarriage as a blessing, not a baby.
https://slate.com/human-interest/2018/11/miscarriage-19th-century-women-loss-book.html