Maybe just plain ol carpenter. Like part of “cool” is unaffected or aloof. A dude or chick who builds their own home and the furniture inside? That’s just cool. A lot of the stuff listed here actually takes a decent amount of nerdiness or at least passion. While the jobs are awesome, idk that they’re the coolest.
I know two people who had full term still born babies. They both absolutely refer to them as babies and as having given birth. I’m only 6 months pregnant and if I lost the pregnancy at this point I would say I lost my son. He’s very real and alive to me, he moves and touches me many times an hour, already keeps me up every night. He’s a real dude in there.
That said, I’ve had two miscarriages and consider those lost pregnancies, not lost children. I’ve seen people online say things like “mother of 4, 2 in heaven” though.
Having something die inside you can fuck you up forever.
This is great! Even at 8 weeks there’s a lot to pass, and it’s painful for days.
At 12 weeks, you can be quite overcome with grief, it’s painful, and you’re in a diaper for days while you pass clots the size of golf balls. You need a heating pad and comfort food, not to sit in your office chair and pretend nothing is happening while you grieve the loss of the future for which you had planned and sacrificed.
It’s so tough. 45k isn’t enough to cover expenses where I live (I know because we’re doing it, and if we weren’t dual income it just wouldn’t work). It doesn’t matter that my husband gets amazing retirement matching and decent benefits, because without my (admittedly small) income we couldn’t pay rent and utilities. If you want to be independent here and have a yard, you need to make more. A few years ago here you couldn’t even find an apartment with that salary, but it’s calmed down a little.
I gave my husband a bouquet of sunflowers this week for passing a certification for work. Not sure what an appropriate way is, but men deserve to receive pretty things. Not sure why we decided plants should be assigned to gender.
I get the opposite. I’m like kind of high after. Definitely not a good time for me to make any decisions.
I’ve usually read standard is 6oz. Very annoying when being told to limit your consumption to a certain number of cups and then no one can agree on what a cup is or how much caffeine is in a cup in the first place.
We didn’t cause this. We live in an oligarchy. The same way you didn’t cause it if good public transportation exists where you live. Spot on with our government hating us though - goes double for anyone brown or with boobs
I’m sorry, but comparing yourself to actually physically isolated people while you were seeing people in person at work is wild. Humans are social creatures! I too loved the privacy and peace that came with covid, but if you saw people live and in person at work, you have no idea what it was like to actually quarantine at home with only screen people for companionship. It messes with your head.
And I think if childless people were saying my grandmother has a fever and her ALF won’t keep her today because of it, they’d be allowed the exact same remote allowances that a parent in their office is afforded. But if a childless person wants the same number of hours regardless of why, that’s not the same flexibility.
In my experience, people taking care of a family member are given equal flexibility at work. It’s not like Sandra gets to leave early cause her kid is sick, but Matt doesn’t get to leave early when his wife has chemo.
Yeah, anyone who has to take care of a sick family member should get to work from home that day, whether it’s a child or an elderly grandparent. That’s what the same flexibility means, not getting to work from home the same amount of days as a parent tit for tat.
Yeah, I lock my door at night, but i don’t think I have to. I’ll usually leave my house unlocked and unattended if we take a neighborhood walk, or even go to the park for a couple hours. The only person who has ever ever “broken in” to this house in almost 50 years is a family member with an addiction looking for something to pawn, and even that was only once. Never a stranger. I live in a city, not rural at all.
Dunno why they picked those two cities anyway. Plus traffic is a huge factor. Tampa and Orlando are only about an hour apart, and that drive can take 3 or 4 hours on a bad day.
Yeah, I feel like when I first came here every third post was about Linux and every third post was about star trek. A lot of the remaining third was beans. Now only every tenth post is Linux and trek.
Blue Moon in the Jack Reacher series. They’re indulgent, half James bond, half Sherlock Holmes. I used to feel embarrassed reading fiction as an adult, but now I’m like hey, a book a week (or sometimes a day) of something pleasurable is way better than a book every six months of something taxing. I’ve got a toddler and I’m pregnant and I’m so glad to have this series so I never have to think about what my next read is. I’m on like book 20/30 though, so a little worried for when it ends.
It’s been so much fun to follow reacher through the technical advances of the 90s and early 2000s! Cameras everywhere, cell phones, internet, debit cards all changing his way of life book to book, really neat.
Suggestions welcome for an equally easy/engaging long series after this!