Whenever I tell someone that I wish i was shorter, they are always taken a back(being masculine presenting). I am just over 6 ft, in my country, that’s a bit above average height. Its not like I am a gaint or anything but I am always aware how intimidating I look. Also, the country where I live doesn’t feel like it build for people my size. Mini-van for transportation that squish my knees, ceiling that are a bit too low for my taste, showers space that’s too small.
But also, I feel like a bumbling idiot (I suspect I have Dysprixa) and hate standing out so much. I may have Body dysmorphia. Its like how I would like to be seen and how I feel, are the exact opposite to how I seen. I feel small, soft, in a relationship, I would prefer to take on the "feminine " role. I feel nothing like a man.
Anyone else relates to this.
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Similar height, here. Nah, I’m good. It was awkward enough learning how to control my current body, and I’d hate to have to go through it all over again. Plus I can’t recall my height ever causing issues, other than way back when I had I really short GF; Half of me felt very lonely
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Same height as me … I’m above average in Europe, but here in Vietnam most men only come up to my chin. I hugged one of the managers at work during Lunar New Year, and he ended up in my boobs, lol
I’m glad you enjoy the attention, there are times I’d like to be able to blend in TBH. Rocking heels and towering over most men is fantastic as an option, too >:-)
Short guy here, do you really?
Maybe? Obviously it might work out differently than I would like, so there is that.
Theres things about being short that arent imemdiately apparent, as I assume there is about being tall too. Unfortunately one of the things about being short is people are less likely to take you seriously. Man or woman, people tend to take taller people more seriously and associate them with confidence, authority, and competence a lot more than shorter people. There is also a wage gap between shorter and taller folks.
People treat short people like children so often it’s infuriating. God damn so much.
I would imagine short women get an extra dose of that infantalization too which has gotta suck.
Yes, I can attest it does suck!
I’m 1.85m tall and do feel like it’s a pretty good height. I was never aware that that counts as tall. But at the same time, i don’t think i ever got anything out of it, other than being able to reach a bit better in the supermarket or something. Having more leg room in a car and so on sounds neat.
It’s like white privilege (but obviously less profound): The benefits are in what doesn’t happen to you: No jokes about your height. No failed job interviews. No romantic difficulties because of your height. People don’t constantly interrupt, or act like you’re not even there. That kind of thing.
Interesting. To be fair, every conversion is over for me if a potential date asks me about my height. My girlfriend now is pretty tall herself and she never cared and she told me before we even met that she doesn’t care. People do constantly interrupt me, which, i don’t really know where that is from. Short jokes is absolutely correct, but weirdly enough, i never saw myself as tall, untill someone pointed it out when i was like 29. I thought i was very avarage, maybe below average, because i was always the youngest in my class, therefore the shortest. I had a roomate who was really short and i did always made short jokes about him, not really in a mean way, but in hindsight, obviously not cool. But i never saw it as a downside, or that people are even bothered that they are shorter. His girlfriend was also almost as tall as me, so again, i just thought that she doesn’t care, no one should.
Yes, but that cuts both ways. The number of cars that really don’t fit at 185cm.
Fitting perfectly into an economy airliner seat is 10/10, the once every 3-4 years that I do that. But cars have their own issues when you’re below the average size: Bad sightlines, arm rests too high, seatbelts that saw at your throat for the whole trip rather than cross your shoulder, increased injury and mortality rates because of those seatbelts and airbags, which are optimized for taller drivers, controls out of reach, and such.
One size fits none. :(
Short person: Securing employment and finding love are harder for me.
Tall person: I know exactly what you mean, sometimes my knees bump against my luxury sports car :(Your argument would be stronger if you left out “luxury sports”. Don’t get me started on flying coach.
I think we all, tall and small alike, can agree the airlines can get fucked with the way they jam inhuman numbers of seats into the airplane. You know they bribe Congress with free flights, to keep themselves carved out from disability -access laws and even basic decency for their passengers.
Boo hoo, car is too small!
Get use to it you circus freak. Us toddlers will just have to suffer through being made fun of for something we have no control over or worse, entirely ignored as if we don’t even exist.
Now if you’ll excuse me, I’ll be getting into my tiny ass car and driving it to the airport where I will comfortably fly in the cheapest coach seats possible. While I’m waiting in the airport, I’ll just buy some silk cashmere sweaters on ebay for $30.
I feel this. I’m 6’4" (196cm) and while I don’t wish I were shorter, I wouldn’t want to be taller. Right now I can still buy clothes, but if I were a little taller I would have to go to the specialty shop. Vehicles are so annoying, and elbow rests are too low, and at work I’m always hunched over.
Also, shoe size. I wear size 47 in France. Not a single shop sells that size in my city. Seriously. Not one. Even the specialty shop stops at 46.
Tbh yeah, a bit. I’m 6’7’‘. I’d be totally fine with being a few inches shorter. Being so tall does have a lot of advantages but I have a hard time finding slim cut pants in my size, office chairs that work for me or cars with enough leg room. I even had to pay a lot of money for a bicycle. I think the sweet spot is probably somewhere around 6’4’'.
6’4 cis gay man here. God, what I wouldn’t give to be a foot shorter – for one, there are the practical concerns like low basement ceilings and economy cars (the world is built for people 6ft and under); but then there’s the fact that most gay men who are tops have the notion (expressly stated or heavily implied) that they want a short, skinny femboy bottom they can manhandle. Which is fine, if that’s your thing. And it’d be totally fine if I were a top – but I’m not. I want to be held and feel smol in someone’s arms, which I can’t really achieve. Being neither short, nor skinny, nor particularly inclined to go topping, it’s hell for dating. :D
I want to be held and feel smol in someone’s arms, which I can’t really achieve.
I’m straight but I felt that man. I hope you find the one.
oh, I’ve found I don’t mesh well with others for a variety of reasons, I’ve since given up on dating. Thanks though. The height just ticks me off because there are lots of things you can change about yourself with genuine effort, if you were wanting to go about changing yourself (for your own sake or for others); but no amount of self-help or positive thinking, nothing is ever gonna make me any shorter.
Well, unless...
… no, nevermind.
Don’t give up man. I’ve met who I thought were the most irritating and unlovable people who are in a happy relationship. If they can find someone to love, so can you. I believe in you.
the world is built for people 6ft and under
For people under 6ft and above 5’4" or so*
Well, yeah, it isn’t built for the seriously vertically challenged either, but everyone thinks being tall is soooo much better. It really isn’t – for every high shelf or tall counter that might piss someone short off, I can point to a basement I’ve had to stand in, a low counter I’ve had to hunch over, or a vehicle I’ve had to sit in that pissed me off just as much if not more so, especially because this usually caused me physical pain (bumping my head, crushing my legs, and so on) – whereas if you’re too short, I imagine you just sigh and go “damnit, I need a stepladder. Again.”
Honestly, I never thought much about my height. I find it baffling that people would pass up on someone because of their height. I like tall women, I like short women, I just like women. She can be taller than me or shorter than me. It’s far from a deal-breaker either way.
For context, I’m a slightly feminine heterosexual man. I don’t think your height should play into that at all. I’m 5 feet, 11 inches (Sorry I’m American) tall. I think your height matters more to you than it does most other people. We are our own worst critics. Try to love yourself and be kind to yourself.
If you worried about being perceived as intimidating try to be aware of your body language. Sitting with your arms crossed tells people you don’t want to talk. It’s best to sit with your hands on your legs. I don’t remember where I read that but it might be helpful.
In conclusion, your shouldn’t be worried about your height and you should also love yourself. I wish you the best m8.
No. I kind of used to, growing up, because being lankier than all the other teenagers is kind of cumbersome and makes it hard to interact with the world around you, designed for smaller people. It’s not that big a deal tbh.
I more wish that buses, cars and doorways were “me” sized.
Nowadays I feel plenty small. For people who are drawn to height, your height is never enough lol.
Edit: I’ve just remembered - bone problems. You know we get more bone problems because of how tall we are/how fast we grow? It’s ridiculous.
I’m barely 5’2". Shut the fuck up and count your blessings.
“My lobster too buttery”-ass post 😡
ewww sea roaches
At least we get to be more fuel efficient, so there’s that…
I wish I was an inch shorter. Im exactly 6ft and nobody believes me when I tell them because thats the “minimum man height” and people immediately assume I’m an overcompensating manlet despite standing there visibly being as tall as I say I am.
Might just start saying 5’11 instead. See how lying to peoples faces works out.
Don’t worry, over time your spine will compress and you’ll be 5’11” sooner than you can say “AARP”!
Be ready for a different type of comment pushing back then.
I’m a 5’9"ish woman and routinely have guys insist I’m taller than 6’ because they’re shorter than me and they’re 6’ so I must be like 6’2".
My brother does this to me.
Can confirm. Am same 5’9".
Like there are two measuring systems. One for guys that rounds up by a few inches. What also is funny is I am keeping my height better than my husband (yoga really rocks for that), but he is always taller than me in his mind, and probably always will be.
I’m a 5’3 dude and sometimes I’ll have other short dudes be like “No you’re not! I’m 5’8 and you’re only like 2 inches shorter than me!”. As if being 5’8 is even sufficient for anyone who actually cares about our height.
Just start using cm instead
Charles de Gualle, who was 196 cm/6’5”, once said1, “We giants are never at ease with others. The armchairs are always too small, the tables too low. The impression one makes too strong.”
I’m slightly taller than he was and I’d add the three concussions I’ve had simply due to height. Hitting my head in my own home is a truly miserable experience.
Or car doorways when getting in or out.
I’m 6’3” and short among the cousins in my family. I don’t mind being a couple inches shorter in conversation. I get a little self conscious when I’m a head or more above everyone else in the room, which is a semi regular thing. I want to be shorter when I bonk my head on things that are low hanging for me. If I was any taller it would be even more difficult to find clothing.
I wouldn’t mind being a couple inches shorter, around 6 feet even.
Usually no, I generally wish I was taller. Or at least my legs were longer; I’m 5’9, but my legs are unusually short, due to a bunch of surgeries I had as a kid. If my legs were ‘normal’ I’d be over 6 feet tall.
The only time I’ve wished I was shorter, was to fit in to smaller cars. Recently, I tried to drive a kei car called an Autozam, tiny little sports car, and I had to take my shoes off to comfortably use the pedals. My head hitting the ceiling is slightly problematic in a car that has gullwing doors.
YES, ALL THE TIME.
I’m ~6’1" with a long waist and it’s pretty ass.
What’s a long waist? Isn’t it like kind of a point/line not a line/plane
Like more vertical height in torso, not just long legs. Lots of room between crotch and natural waist. I am like that, but tall clothing seems to think tall women are short women on stilts. I do not need more inseam, I need higher rise because I’m long waisted.
