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  • If I ever play D&D again, I think I’m going to spend a lot of time in session 0 getting on the same page about if we’re playing D&D as a resource management game, or as a wacky hijinks game. So many people want to play the latter, but expect a long rest to be as easy as it is in video games.

    “I’m out of spells! Can we long rest?”

    “You’re out of spells after casting nearly every single round of combat in the past 3 fights, and you want to chill out for 8 to 16 hours here, in the court of the evil duke’s castle, while he’s working on a ritual to summon a demon lord in a few hours?”

    I mean, I kind of get it. The game is set up so you have all these cool toys. Of course you want to use them. That conflict is why I dislike per-day resources.


  • Conservatives often say things not because they believe them to be true, but because of what they believe the effect will be. They seek power for themselves, and to subjugate others.

    They might say “Free speech is paramount” today, but that’s only because they want to say stuff without consequences. When you want to say something, they’ll say it’s dangerous and unpatriotic. The consistent theme is “I can do what I want. You do what I tell you”. In-groups to protect, and out-groups to bind.

    They are horrible people in some fundamental way.

    Some of them might not even realize they’re doing it. They’re just riding the waves of their emotions.





  • Many people don’t want to date someone destitute or with poor financial prospects. That’s just going to be hardship, and there are many other people that are probably just as good a fit without that problem.

    Similarly, someone who makes way more money than you can add tension. They might be like “oh let’s go out for dinner!” to someplace expensive, and you don’t have the budget for it. Are they going to pay for it? Are they going to resent that? Are they going to pressure you into paying? Their expectations and standards may not align.

    Also, if the relationship is going to be long term most people assume there will be some merging of finances.

    Some jobs are also just gross. I wouldn’t date someone who worked at Facebook. I wouldn’t date someone who worked for Fox News. Your job 100% can reflect your values and personality.



  • I say this a lot but the conservative worldview really boils down to “my group is good and yours is bad”. That’s it. Thus when a conservative does something, it’s cool, because they’re good. When someone else does the same thing, it’s bad because they are bad.

    You can’t argue with this. It’s like if you’re making a math proof and someone tells you it’s wrong because you’re wearing a green shirt. The color of your shirt has nothing to do with this geometry. The hypocrisy has nothing to do with their value system.




  • If you accept that there are moral/ethical problems with eating meat (contribution to climate change, health concerns, animals being killed and eaten, whatever), and choose to eat meat anyway, and encounter a vegan, what has to happen?

    You can accept that they are making a better choice, but then you have to accept that you’re making a worse choice. Most people are cowards and protect the ego at any cost. Rather than shrugging and saying “yeah, i should eat less meat. Good for you taking the high road”, which requires accepting that you’re not being the best, you can instead grab onto any reasons why no it’s really them that sucks. That’s easier, more comfortable, and doesn’t require any painful introspection or changes.

    It’s the same mechanism when people get mad at cyclists, pedestrians, people who go to the gym, people who don’t shop at Walmart, whatever. They’re doing something that makes you feel bad in comparison. Most people are terrible at that and will lash out instead of doing anything productive.

    Alternatively, or maybe additionally, people are really tribal, and once they adopt the idea that vegans (or cyclists, or people driving small cars, or people wearing sandals, whatever) are in the outgroup, then they enjoy being hostile to them.

    People are ego driven emotional morons. All of us. Me, too. It’s terrible.