30 something woman here, apparently I masturbate a lot compared to my friends.
I have to say “yeah once a week too” when they raise the subject ,when in fact it is multiple times a day. Husband would also do 2 times a day if he kept to his “normal” cadence. I know “whatever works for me” is right, but I’d like to compare to other people my age that aren’t my friends.
This is really interesting to me, I kind of feel a little sorry for you, but given that you don’t know any different, lack of sexual drive is completely normal to you it seems.
That is so alien to me. I wake up absolutely desperate to orgasm and equally desperate to make my husband ejaculate (this is my thing and really really advances me towards orgasm). When he is home (which is about 70% of the time) I make him cum every morning when we wake up and then either he makes me cum or I do, when he isn’t there, I look at porn and orgasm at least once, sometimes twice, before I get out of bed.
I have gotten out of bed without cumming about 10 or 15 times in the entire time I have been masturbating.
Don’t feel sorry for me, I’m not broken and there’s nothing to fix.
Oh also I should add that despite being a 41-year old virgin, I didn’t get wizard powers, because those aren’t handed out to asexual people.
Yes sorry, that was patronising, and not how it was meant. It is just so far from what I’ve experienced since I well, discovered my clitoris, it is difficult for me to comprehend.
No offence intended.
Without hormonal influence, repulsion is the natural reaction regarding sex. Weird smells, orifices, fluids, grunting and sweating all up in personal space, goofy faces, the entire act is inherently gross. It takes a powerful cascade, a cocktail if you will, of hormones to induce procreation.