I know this might sound like a strange question, but I’d like to talk about it. I recently joined a lesbian Discord server. After chatting for a while, I shared that I’m married to a man due to cultural and religious reasons. I was married at 16, and it wasn’t really my choice, so I didn’t have any prior experience with men or women. People in the server seemed to expect me to say that I hate my husband or find sex with him disgusting, but I don’t. My primary and only attraction is to women, but I can still enjoy sex with a man on a physical level. My first experience with a woman happened after I was already married, and it was actually facilitated by my husband, who is supportive and helps me connect with women discreetly since I live in a very conservative country. After I shared this, many people in the server reacted negatively and called me a “fake lesbian” or bisexual, which honestly hurt.

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    4 months ago

    Nonsense, your definitions of these trait label categories is entirely black and white, when in reality close to no one fits 100% into a category completely

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      4 months ago

      yeah, you’re right! I’m secretly gay, even though I have no attraction or sexual desire towards men.

      And also not straight, even though I have only had sex with women and only pursue women sexually.