Well, that was a new one for me. Stopped in at Richmond Coles on my way home to get some small stuff and they had party mix on special so I grabbed a couple of bags. Had checked out my shopping and paid for it and was searching my handbag for a carry bag when another shopper swooped past and grabbed the party mix bags and tossed them into her shopping trolley. Which was full of stuff. I yelled and the assistance person ran over and prevented the other person from leaving. I told them what had happened and reclaimed my party mix after the assistance person had checked over my docket. Then as I was leaving I saw 3 staff around the other shopper checking all the stuff in her trolley against her docket. And finding quite a lot of stuff that hadn’t been rung up through the register. She was yelling unfair unfair I’m being persecuted but I reckon she brought it on herself. So damned blatant.
🤣🤣🤣 wild
in the old days when there used to be registers and bags I had someone once try to take some of my bags
People steal my parcels and from my delivered groceries
hugs
and 😠 for the thieves
that used to happen to me all the time when I lived in Carlton , it puts a person on edge to be violated like that all the time
much calmer here
That’s nothing, they also used to try and break in while I was home and I once chased someone out of my flat.
People suck
I saw someone do a runner from an attached bottle shop but never seen someone rob another customer
Stealing from the store is one thing (some would say fuck the duopoly they deserve it, others would say nah, stealing is stealing and all stealing is bad. I understand both attitudes). But stealing from a fellow paying customer after they paid for the items🤦🏼♀️
Definitely she thought the store wouldn’t care if it was just another customer. There are times when yelling and making a fussation pays off though.
What the actual
At least be discreet you know?
Eww. This Aldi face sunscreen is so shiny but not in a hydrating dewy way. It’s like a sweaty high gloss oil slick but also a little bit drying. It was $3 for a handy purse sized tube of high SPF (much cheaper than the alternatives) but I don’t think I’ll be buying it again.
Deciding whether to take a walk. Feeling so depresso.
And there’s so much to do to sort my life out.
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I’m trying to avoid this cat in the hope he gets bored of my place and stays home (and to not catch this again). But according to the camera he was out front half an hour before curfew on Saturday night. And no visible sign of having had his fur treated 😔 I can’t imagine they’re taking the time to pill him.
The plan is to avoid him for now, try to chillax and heal and get myself in order, and if I continue seeing him here at night a lot or if he’s still got ringworm/his condition deteriorates I might have to become a Karen and make a report. It’s not an urgent medical problem but he does need vet care.
I should have just quietly taken him in and treated him without saying anything but that’s illegal.
Anyone know if Darebin is picking up rubbish/recycling/green waste tomorrow? Left it too late to call
Edit - actually wasn’t too late to call. Council is not informed of the streets that will be missed due to PIA, worth putting your bin out in case…
Collections in Darebin are normal for the rest of this month. They’ve threatened a major stoppage in May though. Wait and see.
♫ I used to fuck with scammerrrrrs
Now I just tell them I reeeeent ♫Have my first volunteer shift at the RSPCA shop on Thursday. I’m super curious what they’ll have me doing exactly.
Picking up poo.
🤣🤣🤣
Get the new guy to do it
Most of my work at Lort Smith was dog poo related.
ok back to bed 😷🤒🤧🤢🤕🥴
the snottening makes me feel like mr mackie
a day of rest I think
Holiday starts on Friday, here’s hoping I’m kept well occupied this week or I’m going to be climbing the walls here. Oh, wait, I’ll be doing that anyway.
Fucking bitch has stolen my desk 🤬
Just to add to the work rant - fucking bitch is a brown nosing fucking tattle tail. Texting one of the directors every little bit of gossip or grumble she hears. Ew.
Word on the streets is that she treats animals and wait-staff like shit too, and that she smells like old yoghurt
need more deets
Somebody I dislike got in before me and pinched a ‘shared’ desk on my usual day. I now have no second screen, no barcode scanner, and a bunch of other minor nuisances.
It wouldn’t have been a great night out without me getting wasted and stacking it on slight decline walking to the tram.
Thankful to bottom racer for pulling me off the road 😂
tw minor road rash, open skin deep wound
In such an awkward spot too, the heel of my hand. I’ve lathered it in Dettol, will reapply; I don’t like the look of some of that yellow lol
I want to give my undying gratitude to Catfish for hosting and providing entertainment. They are wonderful company and it was just wonderful!
I made the cupcakes, but catfish made the decorations!!!!! GIVE THEM PRAISE!!
ooh ouch!
Had a great time with youse all :)
Ouch! Lovely to see you. Hello Kitty to avoid accidental vodka 😜
Cute cupcakes!
😂😂😂 the vodka was definitely making its way around.
Cuuuuute cupcakes!! They look great! I’m sad I had to miss this one, looking forward to seeing you guys again!!
Ouch! I hope you heal fast!
It would be nice to attend these shindigs but currently not able to, I hope you had a wonderful time.
It looks like my plan to use the govt. 5% deposit guarantee scheme won’t work out. They make you use all of your savings, so I won’t be able to keep aside enough money to do the maintenance (like restumping) that a house of the age I’m looking at is going to need. I guess it’s back to paying mortgage insurance and/or asking for help from family. Frustrating.
I’ve finally got around to popping the plastic hubcaps off the pram wheels to give everything a proper hot soapy soak, and they’ll get a scrub and some disinfectant once the water has cooled down enough to put my (gloved) hands in. The wheels are riveted together on a mini-axel with a pin attachment that clicks into each pram ‘leg’.
A shame. I often wanted to switch them out for wheels with more cushion because they had zero suspension or give and Melbcat probably had a very bumpy ride each time. But you wouldn’t be able to change the wheels without breaking them free and re-riveting - and while you could get new metal caps and the tool I’m not sure how well the axel would stand up to the process and hold a new rivet.
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No sign of the little black cat tonight. Which is probably a good thing, perhaps he’s safe at home. The owner mentioned their other cat died so maybe he won’t be bullied away now. I still feel like a bit of an arsehole for avoiding him and no longer feeding him. Sweet boy. He will be missed but I hope it’s a good outcome. I just want him to be treated and be cared for.
I wish I still had Melbcat. My big beloved teddy bear always cuddled extra in winter. Still waiting on this grief counseling, I should be contacted on Wednesday.
Kittens starting to be allowed into more parts of house unsupervised. Process was delayed by the fact that despite our entire house is cat friendly - and designed around cats we’ve literally had since birth - these two maniacs have invented new and interesting means of chaos. Sammy is losing his shit sideways at everything and Max is watching with glee
Pics?
Heavy discussions last night.
Looking at intervention for ol’ girl. I can’t get that weight up if she keeps refusing ensure (she keeps tipping it down the sink when it’s mixed up ready to go in). Was blamed by her. It’s irrational.
Meltdown if you do, meltdown (and severe consequences) if you don’t. “All you want to do is get rid of me”.
Stuck.
Can’t do anything right, just falls on its face.
We’re well beyond gentle suggestion.
When she goes in it’ll be stressful and miserable for her (bad for non-amnestic MCI), more nutrition and on a drip (good for NA MCI), no excercise (bad).
What do you do. What the correct thing to do (peg and drip) is also wrong.
How tf do you weigh this up w/o feeling guilt.
You feel guilt because you care. Not much you can do about that. You’ve done everything possible and more. It’s a hard time right now. Much love to you and your family. ❤️
Weigh this up w/o feeling guilt - I don’t reckon there’s a way that doesn’t involve some sort of guilt feelings. Question of what sort and for what.
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At this point I reckon that you’ve done a damn sight more than is strictly required, so the coulda and shoulda sort of guilt is not operating. The woulda sort of guilt - well, she’s your Mum and you love her. In spite of all the current difficulties.
Imo, and this is strictly my own opinion, is that one of her current hungers is for agency. The question is, does that hunger hit harder than physical food hunger - and imo it currently does. And independent agency is contraindicated due to other factors.
You’re battling a shit storm rn, and there are no good or right answers. All you can do is the best you can in the circumstances, and try to sleep at night. Feel for you.No guilt here mate. She’s clearly not in a fit mental state to handle her health. Once she starts being managed properly you may find the whole thing becomes unnecessary because she’s back on track. But right now they’re drowning
You will feel guilt. But for a good reason.
You’re trying to do what’s best for her, and it’s being throw back in your face.
Guilt is normal in this situation.
In this scenario, you’re not the problem. You’re actively trying to find a solution, but it’s getting harder and harder.
I hope you stay strong through the ordeal.
Not much to add to the other advice except that if she can have full medical attention and at least some food into her some of the anxiety and other issues might reduce. I have seen that happen with my ex-gradma in law. Refused everything, couldn’t manage meds, told her daughter the most awful things when she was moved to a home, but she thrived there. Might not help, but it’s pretty awful now plus you are trying to just keep her alive. Get the professionals in so you can be there in other ways.
I’m sorry if this comes across the wrong way bro, but it sounds like there’s no scenario here where you don’t feel bad.
The best you can do, is pick the option that is the best for your mums health.
I’m sorry you and your family are going through such a difficult time ❤️
It’s ok. She would have gone downhill and potentially had a bad end if it wasn’t for your persistence and care. Ignore her criticism, she’s not thinking rationally right now. She can’t tip the Ensure down the sink and then blame you for weight loss now can she? And she can’t be distressed about the weight loss and still yell at you for pushing the food. That’s not reasonable or fair.
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I completely understand the stress. You’re in a double bind where you’re damned if you do and damned if you don’t. When I find myself in one of those I just try to pick the least worst option. Usually that’s guided by legal guidelines or what I morally should do. In an imperfect system it doesn’t always work out well but… it’s some kind of compass.
I think conversations need to be had about ol’ girls mental state in regards to making decisions and who is legally in charge of decisions around her.
It may be that if she’s to be supported to maintain her weight she may be forced to do things she doesn’t want to (hospital stay, medication, carers, interventions around nutrition) and you may have to work out if you or someone else have the legal authority to do that. Definitely have her assessed and take her during her worst day so that they can see what’s happening. Also - people with dementia can do this thing called “showtiming” where they’re able to get it together enough to hide it, so definitely document what’s been going on.
Another side of it is that her body may be winding down and doesn’t need nutrition. But that’s a conversation for her doctor. If she isn’t coming to the end of her life and food refusal is related to pain, dementia, or changes to behaviour resulting from TBI - there are things that can be done.
If you want to keep pushing with the nutrition and her receiving care? Work out where you stand legally first and get supports on side, then you and the medical team can decide how to go forward.
(Unfortunately by now she may not be deemed to have the mental capacity to be allowed to designate a person, so you may have to apply through VCAT, state trustees, or go to court. You can decide whether it’s you or appoint someone else, including a lawyer.)
https://www.publicadvocate.vic.gov.au/your-rights/enduring-power-of-attorney#5vcat.vic.gov.au/
https://www.statetrustees.com.au/resources/power-of-attorney-guide/
https://justiceconnect.org.au/resources/powers-of-attorney-in-victoria/
There are also different types which govern what decisions you or the person can make for her.
(This is a good explanation but it’s a business in NSW so be aware some things might change in VIC - it doesn’t mention supportive power of attorney https://www.careforfamily.com.au/blog/getting-power-of-attorney-parent-spouse-with-dementia/)
https://www.legalaid.vic.gov.au/powers-attorney
And I’m really sorry if discussing this sounds cold or brutal. It kind of does. But this isn’t intended to strong-arm your mum into things she doesn’t want to do. It’s to ensure you or someone else is able to act in her best interests, make decisions about medical care, and also to protect her from exploitation.
I have my eye squarely on your brother when I say that last part. From what you say about comments he’s made, it’s very possible that he intends to take advantage of your mum around matters of the will, or may even sneakily take from her funds or manipulate “gifts” of money while she’s alive. Having someone else in place may prevent that.
I am so sorry you’re dealing with this bro.
If it helps sometimes it gets less stressful when you’ve made a decision or at least have a plan going forward.
I’m so sorry. Such a difficult situation. This sounds so horrid. It’s impossible to know what her wishes are. Refusing food but also ‘you are trying to get rid of me’ implies she doesn’t want to die? Somehow her mental state is thinking food is poison? Ensure will harm her? Because she doesn’t have the mental capacity to understand the consequences of not eating, or to communicate if she wishes to live or enter palliative stage, you’re in an impossible situation. Agree with Melba that checking what the legalities are for medical treatment for someone mentally incapacitated is important. Maybe also having a discussion with others who are close to her, and her doctors, what decisions would be the best quality of life for her?
