This question was inspired by a meme I just saw, and my longtime crush on Brad Pitt, who’s 45 years older than me.
Youngest: my age. Oldest: if it’s someone in as good shape as Brad Pitt, the sky’s the limit.
You must log in or # to comment.
Half my age +7 and double my age -7
This is the correct formula.
Shouldn’t the latter actually be “My age - 7, then doubled”? That’s the order of operations to find a number that matches the “half plus 7” rule.
For example, say you’re 66 and looking for the lowest age according to the first formula. 66/2 = 33. Then 33 + 7 = 40.
Which should mean that for a 40 year old, the upper age would be 66. If we do 40 - 7 = 33, then 33 x 2 = 66. These numbers match.
But if we followed OP’s formula, we’d end up with 73 instead. (40 x 2 = 80, and 80 - 7 = 73.) That’s a 9 year difference. Meanwhile, if we did “half plus 7” for a 73 year old, we’d get 43.5. The numbers don’t line up.
You are correct, I’m so used to seeing it I didn’t sanity check the whole thing. Your maximum = their minimum using the same rule.
I used that formula to half-jokingly look for a partner on my blog. And it worked. I was 22 and she was 27. “So old!” I thought back then. Didn’t help that she sent me a really ugly blurry photo. Still, I was desperate and liked our conversations.
Now we’re married and laugh about that “huge age gap”.
I know someone who was 70 and married a 35 year old. she’s the same age as his oldest daughter. they had kids and the and grand kids are the same age
another person I know with a similar age gap. his wife is leaving him now after some 25 years of marriage. she said he’s too old for her
38yo Male, cis and dull.
30-45?
Seems like an alright range. Ten over, ten under maybe so too.
This depends on what you mean by date
If you mean pursue a long term relationship, the answer probably is around 30 and 45
If you mean a short term fling or one time thing, the answer is 25 to probably 60. This depends a lot on their physical condition.
Edit: also, F38
Damn! We’d fit perfectly (ok, on the edges), if only I was in good physical condition /s
But seriously I totally agree, where I previously strongly preferred someone near to my age, that no longer seems as relevant.
- a short term thing would be purely physical. I wouldn’t be too picky
- a relationship would have to be about as active as me, similar interests, etc. one of the challenges is compatible sex drive and that gets harder with age
M<older>- probably consider 40-60 but would be suspicious of the ulterior motives of the younger ones
when I was 39, I dated someone that was 23. Never again. If I were to date again, 10 years older or younger would probably be my limit. Ideally, 5 years would probably be the best dating pool.
I’m curious - why would you never go younger than yourself, but don’t have an issue with the older person going decades younger for you?
EDIT - just found out your 17 which changes things. I’ll get my coat.
where does this me being 17 thing come from?
i’ve been open about my age since i first got on here. even had an asklemmy post about birthday celebrations months ago
62-45= 17?
I only date people who are physiologically in their twenties but chronologically in their one hundred and twenties.
/I have a thing for time travelers.
Vampires?
Me too…where did you find these, “time travelers”?
Yesterday.
Joke answer: whomever my wife would let us.
Actual answer: I don’t know. I’m in my mid 40s. If I had to start over for some reason and was looking for a serious relationship, at least 30s as the minimum. Max would be low 50s, probably, though I’ve not thought a ton about it.
Actualer answer: if I ever lost my wife, I doubt I could/would pursue a serious relationship again or at least for a long enough time to make my answer above probably innacurate.
I think I’d be done for good.
Give me a rich, generous, elderly, asexual sugar-mama or give me death.
Im a dude which means if someones an adult im not likely to shy away. Realistically there is a point where someone younger than me is not going to be attracted to me or the commanality factor is not there or our lives simply would not mesh. Granted im married so this is all theoretical alternate univers where I was not. Similarly when it comes to older its likely to be more about looks. We all know some folks that keep themselves fit and if someone is hot they are hot. Now the limiting factor there is im not exactly fit and you have to be realistic in expectations. Anyway I don’t think its about age when it comes to attraction. Its physicality and personality meshing.
Im a dude which means if someones an adult im not likely to shy away.
That’s not what the word “dude” means. Just because you’d fuck anyone old enough to give consent doesn’t mean all men would.
Between Age/2+7 and Age*2-14
“oldest? ok!” scribbling sounds (…and carry the 1)… oh. :-(
It’s a surprisingly effective equation. It basically works for everyone 14+, with just a little “not so sure” zone when you’re 20 and they’re 17. After that, it gets back on track.
This worked out for my wife and I for the last 30 years (22/18)
My dad is 98 and he started dating an 82-year-old. It seems to be going really well. She can’t drive and he still does so that probably increased his appeal.
Is he still mentally fit to drive at 98? Damn that’s impressive. You’ve got some good genes.
Yeah. I’ve started taking care of myself know that this body might have to do me for a long time. He’s also still doing woodworking. Makes amazing stuff.
Recently I had an operation and was in a semiprivate recovery room with a man who turned out to be 77. I’m 38. While chatting with each other to pass the time, I was on some pretty heavy painkillers. (He refused any pain remediation stronger than Tylenol. He was a veteran and, I suspect based on his reaction to any offerings, had seen friends succumb to addictions.)
Anyway, despite being drugged, I managed not to say the first two things that came to mind:
- “Wow, you’re almost exactly double my age!”
- “Whoa, that’s how old my dad was when he died.”
All that to lead up to … If you have any pictures to share, I’d love to see the creative works of a 98-year-old!
Those are wonderful! Thank you for sharing.
Top is 1/4 inch ash. He used a scroll saw for the little cutouts. Second is shapes cut out, painted, then glued onto a backing.
of course not. doesnt stop old people though
Generalizations like this are useless. Obviously there are exceptions. There certainly are people who retain a sharp mind into old age and even past age 100. It’s not that uncommon. If he also kept his body in good shape, it’s easy to believe he can still drive as well as anyone half his age.
Youngest: at least my age, but eh.
Oldest: I prefer older women. Always have and always will.
Why at least your age? Unless you’re a teen, in which case that makes sense. But if you are like 33, what would be the issue with someone who was, say, 30?
Does it really matter what my preference is?
Not really. Just curious since you brought it up.
My wife’s age, down to the second.
When I was 14 other 14year olds interested me, now I know a few that age because they go to school with my kids, but even if I was single they are too immature. About 22 they are mature enough I might consider but overall I’m glad I’m married and don’t have to worry about it
Your reasoning for not dating children is deeply concerning to me
My posted reasoning is not a complete list.
“I think they’re too immature” is an excellent reason. Physically, mentally, and emotionally. It would be harmful to the child because of that immaturity. They are not attractive because of that immaturity. They are not suitable for partnerships with adults because of their immaturity.
A more deeply concerning reason would be “because it’s illegal.”
Your wife flies in a rocket ship near the speed of light on a round trip to Alpha Centauri.
If I understand your meaning, your dating age range would change as you communicated over the 9ish years of her trip.
My dating range would actually change less in that situation than it normally does because in the normal situation she’s getting older by one second per second continuously whereas in the relatively case she’s getting older at a slower pace
