• tetris11@feddit.ukEnglish
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      2 months ago

      I like her darker, edgier stuff. That comic she made about the cannibal lepers on the moon of Annares really spoke to my inner child

  • BeardededSquidward@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    2 months ago

    My childhood was filled with proverbial dodging bullets and land mines. My adult life is a lot more chill because I have chosen to remove the drama that caused my childhood from my life.

    • Ibuthyr@feddit.org
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      2 months ago

      This. Just had an existential crisis at 40-43. Slowly recovering and regaining a bit of perspective but holy shit did that hit hard. I’ve never had mental problems before, so this really fucked me up something good.

      • NιƙƙιDιɱҽʂ@lemmy.world
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        2 months ago

        I did that around 27 or so. I wonder if that means I’m good from here on out, or is that 40s one just waiting to reaaaaally fuck my shit up. 🤔

        Hope you’re doing better though. From experience, absolutely not a fun thing to go through :(

        • Ibuthyr@feddit.org
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          2 months ago

          It’s getting better. Has mostly to do with my job in combination with the rise of the Nazis. I may have something new and better on the horizon but even if not, I’ve managed to not give as much of a fuck and I say no way more often nowadays.

      • Obi@sopuli.xyz
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        2 months ago

        Well I’ve had mental problems my whole life so hopefully I’ll manage better, it’s coming up soon…

    • Rcklsabndn@sh.itjust.works
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      2 months ago

      It’s great when all of the fun/exciting friends you had die or get locked up, and every potential love interest you come across is married/loaded down with kids/fucked up from a past relationship/is only interested in a complicated open relationship.

      I’m not projecting.

    • Dozzi92@lemmy.world
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      2 months ago

      I like to think I did my 20s right, if that means anything. Partied often, built my career, worked on my established, longstanding friendships. I lived a bit wildly, but I also think that I gradually wound those things down. I have been in my career since I was 20, but in my mid-20s, my friends would show up to my jobs at night, I’d change out of my suit in the bathroom, and we’d all take a train into Manhattan, on a Tuesday or Wednesday. It’s something I couldn’t even consider. Our nights started at 1030, 11. Now, that’s essentially when they end for me.

      I’m now in as late as your 30s get, have kids, and that lifestyle is a very distant past, which I’m happy about. I have friends who still like to live it, and that’s cool. I’ll hang out with them, but I also have no problem tapping out early, and they also don’t care that I do. We’re all past the point of “uno mas,” which is funny because it’s been the name of our group chat for the past 15 years, and it’s okay. I had fun, it’s no longer what I want to do for fun, and that’s cool with me and everyone.

      It’s nice to all grow to a point where peer pressure has seemed to finally met it’s demise, although I do always say peer pressure is a great motivator of youth, and I wouldn’t change my youth for a second, because my present is great.

  • CADmonkey@lemmy.world
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    2 months ago

    This one really resonates with me.

    In my 20’s I was just some guy working in a factory.

    In my 30’s I learned about CNC lasers and CAD and got to do cool things. Now im 40-something and I get to do and see cool things, and even design cool things.

  • Couldbealeotard@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    2 months ago

    Anyone who yearns for their life as child has developmental issues. I’m not trying to say that as a sick burn, I think it’s honestly sad and source of suffering for some people.

    • CADmonkey@lemmy.world
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      2 months ago

      One of the moat depressing things I used to hear as a kid was how this was the best part of my life and I should enjoy it.

    • JamesBoeing737MAX@sopuli.xyzEnglish
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      12 days ago

      Or their life is shitty, boring and full of useless/pointless demands. They wish they were still children, because they at least had some (fictional) purpuse.

      It’s sad. Most of us realize life has no point and some wish for the childish illusion.

      It’s similar to me wishing I was stupid, so I wouldn’t be burdened by the emotional consequences of opinions, thoughts and my negative perception of the world.

      Also: it might also be child abuse (as an adult, you can intellectualise your experience, which you couldn’t as a child).

      • Couldbealeotard@lemmy.worldEnglish
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        11 days ago

        Doesn’t sound like an “or”, sounds like a developmental issue.

        I think it’s natural for everyone to go through a stage of questioning the meaning of life, but if your end answer is “I just wish I was a kid again/stupid so I don’t have to worry about it” then give failed to mature intellectually.

        I agree that it could be brought on by child abuse or other trauma. I’m not trying to place blame on the individual, everyone’s circumstance is different. Either way, I think it’s sad, and I hope those people find a way to improve.

  • VitoRobles@lemmy.todayEnglish
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    2 months ago

    Age 10-20 was miserable. Hormones. Parents. Bullies in high school. Difficult to find work. College struggle and debt.

    Age 20-30 was better but still shit. Welfare. Homelessness. Police harassment. Juggling three jobs to pay rent.

    Age 30-40 was so much better. Life was in order. Wife and I both leveled up our education and got a career. Traveled for the first time (Hawaii then Japan). Had kids.

    Age 40 - life is getting better. Feels like the best days still happening.

  • Skyline969@piefed.caEnglish
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    2 months ago

    This is how it was for me. No societal expectation to care about things anymore. Don’t wanna go somewhere? Say you don’t feel like it or that you’re tired and boom, done. Nobody looks twice at you, which I suppose could feel devastating for some. For me it felt liberating.

    • lordbritishbusiness@lemmy.worldEnglish
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      2 months ago

      It’s when you probably have your life in order and are comfortable with who you are. It’s a good time when you are most you.

      Though for those who haven’t got either of those, it’s probably not going to be a good time. I feel for those people, I know a few.

      I’m happy with myself in my 30’s it’s always nice to think of telling my younger self of the stuff I’ve done. British business the younger would be very surprised and absolutely jazzed about it.

      • alcea@feddit.org
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        2 months ago

        True. Like imagine all those people who are “looking for someone to complete them” When said person has been staring at them in the mirror each.

        My younger self would be happy and impressed with what I have achieved “You can draw ???” (Altho maybe not so much wkth still being certainly “not the life of the party” but that was to be expected :P )