I feel like I started too late. There’s no hope for me of ever passing… I’m so freaking dysphoric

      • ellypny@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
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        2 months ago

        It’s a turn of phrase that means something like "you’re so fine you’re out of my league, " etc. Like damn I would let u ruin my life. I stole it from a tweet somewhere

  • chattre@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
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    2 months ago

    holyholyfuck no no no you’re so pretty you’re so pass TwT

    the brain goblins are in your head u got this

  • Rachel@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
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    2 months ago

    Imo you probably have no issue of getting screwed , you look pretty good. Voice training and other things are important as well tho.

  • isleepinahammock@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
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    2 months ago

    (Please take this kindly.)

    I’m truly, honestly not sure whether this is a troll/bait post or just someone with severe confidence issues. But I’ll assume the latter until proven otherwise. You would hardly be the first passing trans gal that’s convinced themselves they’re hopeless. Gender dysphoria is a bitch like that.

    Girl, at least from what I can tell in this photo, you already pass. If you find yourself not passing in public, there are a few possibilities. It might be something that we can’t see in a front-facing photo, but can be seen in side profile. It might be your voice. It might be mannerisms. But even if you’re getting read male in public, it’s no reason to doom. If it’s voice or mannerisms, well you can change those. If it’s side profile, that does require FFS to change, but that hardly means you’re doomed.

    But really, from the photo, I would say it’s mostly in your head. If you hadn’t told me you were trans, I wouldn’t have known.

    • McUberStein@lemmy.zipOPEnglish
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      2 months ago

      I swear this isn’t a troll. I truly do have severe confidence issues along with terrible anxiety.

      This is honestly just a good-ish photo and I’m definitely not passing. I still boymode in public for that reason.

      It’s really hard to get out of my head. My bf keeps complimenting me, so do my friends, but it’s way too easy to dismiss them. I’m sorry this post seemed like a troll.

      I will need FFS for my profile: mainly my forehead. However, reading all of these comments, I’m getting slightly more hopeful. Thank you, kind stranger 🩷

      • isleepinahammock@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
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        2 months ago

        Do you actually know if you pass or not? Have you tried girl moding? It might surprise you if you haven’t.

        And sorry, I didn’t mean to accuse you of anything. I definitely get the confidence issues. I’ve dealt with them myself.

        • Miisha ♀️@lemmy.blahaj.zonedeleted by creatorEnglish
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          2 months ago

          I have tried girl moding, just in like the worst way possible. I go outside with my bf after dark in girlmode quite often, and even then, I’m really anxious about people staring.
          Even without the dysphoria, my anxiety and low self-confidence are killing me…
          I’m already taking pills for that, but they’re not really helping much. Prog kinda helps with the anxiety though. I should really force myself to get out there more…

          • captainlezbian@lemmy.worldEnglish
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            2 months ago

            When you think people are watching you start acting weird, that causes people to watch. People might be looking or even watching tor any number of reasons. Maybe you don’t pass. Maybe you’re attractive to them. Maybe you look like someone they know. Maybe you look really nervous and they don’t know why.

            As kindly as I can say this, it’s going to be scary until you’ve done it enough to be comfortable. Do it scared. Accept that it’s not the end of the world if someone you’ll never speak to thinks you’re trans unless it’s actively a dangerous place to be openly trans.

            Also passing isn’t binary. I’ve had coworkers comment on me being trans at workplaces where other coworkers make remarks about my menstruation.

      • Seleni@lemmy.worldEnglish
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        2 months ago

        You look like a girl to me. My husband’s cousins both have a body profile similar to yours, so I can say with confidence you have a fem bod.

        Maybe if you’re getting tagged as a boy still, it’s your voice? Speech classes might help.

        • McUberStein@lemmy.zipOPEnglish
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          2 months ago

          I would say it’s less my voice and more me boymoding…

          But yeah, I’m working on my voice with a professional. Should help a ton.

          Thank you

          • Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.worldEnglish
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            2 months ago

            Are you switching between two different accounts in this thread? It’s a bit confusing, though I get it if you have alts - I just want to be sure nobody’s hijacking your post.

            • Miisha ♀️@lemmy.blahaj.zonedeleted by creatorEnglish
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              2 months ago

              I am. I’m abandoning my old account (Peanut/McUberStein) and using my new one (this one) with my new name.

              Sorry for the confusion. I don’t know why I thought making posts on my old account first and making a new account after was a good idea 😂.

              So, yeah. This is my new one.

  • Malyca@lemmy.zipEnglish
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    2 months ago

    Granted I’m cis but you pass to my eyes, you’re very pretty though your eyes are so sad. Don’t let the dysphoria demon win. Your brain is lying to you.

    • Miisha ♀️@lemmy.blahaj.zonedeleted by creatorEnglish
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      2 months ago

      Omg, thanks ❤️

      My eyes are sad? My eyes are like the only thing I’m confident about, I got my mom’s blue eyes 😭

      Thank you tho. Especially from a cis person, this makes me feel better :3

  • Gigdragon@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    2 months ago

    Sister-doppleganger jumpscare. You look SHOCKINGLY close to my sister Crystal.

    Also, if this is Crystal. Mean. This is Talon. I will remember this, no more enchiladas for you.

    • Miisha ♀️@lemmy.blahaj.zonedeleted by creatorEnglish
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      2 months ago

      You have a sister? I’m so jealous!

      I only have a younger brother. He’s sweet tho.

      So, unfortunately not Christal. Also, new account.

  • k0e3@lemmy.caEnglish
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    2 months ago

    Sorry if a cis male isn’t supposed to comment here, but I was genuinely curious as to what you meant by “I’m screwed,” because I didn’t think you could possibly mean you didn’t look femine (passing?) because you do.

    I think you look great and I hope you feel that about yourself soon, too!

    Again, I’m sorry if I’m not welcome here, not using the correct terminology, or have completely missed the point of this post.

    • Miisha ♀️@lemmy.blahaj.zonedeleted by creatorEnglish
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      2 months ago

      Glued together indeed, using lots of coffee, sugar and a ton of estrogen oil in my thighs 😂
      Speaking of, I should get to stabbing myself

  • benderbeerman@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    2 months ago

    You don’t need to prove who you are to anyone but you. Nobody that matters thinks otherwise, and anyone who thinks otherwise doesn’t matter. If they don’t like who you are, they can kick rocks. You got this, girl!

  • smh@slrpnk.netEnglish
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    2 months ago

    Tell you truth, I read the title of this post, clicked the image, thought “huh, why is she screwed?” and tried to find the problem in the image. Then I read the community name and the rest of your post.

    You’re passing just fine.