I know this might sound like a strange question, but I’d like to talk about it. I recently joined a lesbian Discord server. After chatting for a while, I shared that I’m married to a man due to cultural and religious reasons. I was married at 16, and it wasn’t really my choice, so I didn’t have any prior experience with men or women. People in the server seemed to expect me to say that I hate my husband or find sex with him disgusting, but I don’t. My primary and only attraction is to women, but I can still enjoy sex with a man on a physical level. My first experience with a woman happened after I was already married, and it was actually facilitated by my husband, who is supportive and helps me connect with women discreetly since I live in a very conservative country. After I shared this, many people in the server reacted negatively and called me a “fake lesbian” or bisexual, which honestly hurt.

    • Qui_vivra_verra@lemmy.worldOP
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      1 month ago

      I don’t feel attracted to men. The act itself arouses me and feels good physically, but the man himself doesn’t. On the other hand, I’m attracted to women in the traditional sense.

      • webp@mander.xyz
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        1 month ago

        So according to them, people who enjoy using a toy for pleasure should id as dildosexual or whatever. It’s just an organ reacting to physical stimuli

      • HuudaHarkiten@piefed.socialEnglish
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        1 month ago

        To be honest, I would advise not putting yourself in whatever boxes society has decided people should be in.

        I’m like 97,479% heterosexual but I do find some men attractive and wouldn’t mine having some fun. But I don’t consider myself bisexual, heterosexual or gay. If someone gets upset that I’m not hetero/gay enough or whatever, they can fuck off, I don’t care. I am what I am, thats enough for me.