Yeah actually that sounds pretty good, might ask my partner about it when she comes home
We don’t. Weigh the risk/reward and determine what you really want vs what you’re willing to offer. If you’re not willing to offer a partner who requires the full emotional and social commitment of human connectivity and only in it for base needs, you’re an asshole. If you both agree that it’s just about satisfying each other’s base needs, great. Eventually you get old enough you don’t care anymore and coming home to no one is a blessing, just four walls blocking the noise of society, a dog or cat or both, and the blissful solitude of not having no responsibility for the emotional needs of another human being even if deep down you know yours are unsatisfied. Accept you’re a hot mess that other people shouldn’t have to deal with and make the best of what you’ve got without dragging someone else into your cycle of misery.
Wo
People think that “i hate small talk” must mean “i want big talk” because they cannot comprehend the idea of just shutting tf up
Not always true and a little besides the point. I went through a period where my friend circle ONLY made small talk. Hang out for a couple hours at a bar, 90% no talking and when we did it was either to insult each other or talk about our beers.
It became exhausting. Unsurprisingly we went our separate ways and never contacted each other again.
What the duck are you taking about Joey?!?
Yeah I can’t imagine the alternative. A life where you and your partner aren’t comfortable in silence sounds like a nightmare.
Truth!
These thoughts rattling around in my head and this breath in my lungs would be wasted forever unless I combine them and thrust it upon your unwilling ears
—the entire world for some reason
Sorry, I’m quieter when I take my Ritalin!
With silence. Peace and tranquility. Simply enjoying someone’s very presence without needing to verbalize it
I thought so about myself too, until i realise i hate small talk because most of the time it’s about topic idgaf or with people i don’t want to interact with or when i’m supposed to focus.
My bf and I barely talk at all. It’s fucking awesome just being comfortable shutting the fuck up together.
You mean you don’t have someone constantly at their/your wits’ end… telling you that you’re either the cause of , or lack of the cause of everything?
Thought I was just old fashioned… LOVE…
Nah; I split with my abusive af wife years ago.
The more I read into this thread, the more I appreciate being German. I don’t talk to the cashier besides smiling at them and saying hello and goodbye and they don’t expect me to. I only talk to people I want to talk to, besides at work. But even there I keep it low.
It’s not that I don’t like to talk. I just prefer to talk with a meaning.
You might like New Jersey to then. “How you doing” is about the extent of it. I can see people I know while out for a run, walk, grocery, whatever, and you’re only getting a how you doing unless there’s something important we need to discuss. Neighbors, you get a smile and a wave. I’m not striking up a conversation just to strike up a conversation, and that’s how most of us are.
At the same time, we can plan to get together and then do get-together stuff, including those meaningless or meaningful conversations.
I hope you don’t get me wrong. Ten years ago I might have thought about that. But in the meantime, the USA have removed themselves from the list of countries I want to visit for the foreseeable future and probably beyond. And even 10 years ago, I wasn’t really eager to visit.
I understand why you’re saying it. There isn’t really a place that’s representative of the US as a whole, and NJ certainly doesn’t represent the qualities that you’re presumably trying to avoid. But the internet paints this picture that definitely looks bleak, so I can appreciate your sentiment.
It’s not that I fear for myself. I am aware that I, as a white German dude, will probably be fine in the US. It’s more of a statement I want to express. You, the US of A, won’t see a cent from me as long as I can prevent it. I’ve cancelled my subscriptions. If it’s made in the USA it’s not made for me, etc. And I’m making sure my government knows what I think about playing nice with the beast.
I know there are great people in the USA and I’m sure you are one of them. But your country turned to shit.
Hey, you won’t find me disagreeing. I try to stay local, small businesses, all of that. It has been a disappointing decade for sure, but I’m not going to lose hope.
All the best to you and the other people that don’t agree with the government. Let’s hope it’ll get better soon.
That’s how the vast majority of people here are. Say hi to the cashier, maybe chat with them a second if you’ve seen them a few times, then move about your day. People don’t randomly have an hour long conversations.
We don’t plan to
Sincerely, schizoids
Okay, so here’s the thing. My wife and I have been doing this to each other for nearly 20 years. She’s a philosophy major. I’m a math major. This was probably one of our first big arguments. Any time either one of us stumble on a proof or a study or a tangential bit of theory or semi-relevant meme, we will immediately reignite the struggle session over free-will for the rest of the week.
Seems silly to exert so much effort over something that clearly can’t exist?
yes, thats what I want
I talk about the big of talk when the talking go to flow about the ways this those do go the ways God did intendeder
Are and is get got to car corn go got gain in sniff horn am bat this un.
Don’t eat you money or your mom with come through the corn on the other side of Berkeley.
A band in the face is pardoned if gathering yolks takes almonds. Many a surfeit of clovers is am be.
No you transition straight into hardcore steamy sex
Do people in relationships actually talk about useless shit all day??
We definitely do a lot of gossip.
That’s what normies don’t get about introverts: we’re not above small talk, we’re above small talk when it’s all there is. Of course we’ll ask the loved one how their day has been, and the fact is we’ll actually shut the fuck up and listen to it all, and when things become serious we’ll talk to say meaningful things.
Else, there’s folie à deux echolalia, shitty jokes, movie lines, comfortable silence, or skipping it all to ‘scorching hot sex’.
I’m all for small talk. It’s the superfluous small talk just to kill dead air I hate. I’d rather sit in an elevator and say nothing than talk about how much rain we’re about to get this afternoon.
Thats insert x location weather for ya’! don’t like it, Just wait five minutes! *proceeds to slap knee’
I hate small talk, vehemently opposed to it… been married over 15 years…
When it is someone you truly love and cherish… even the most mundane things come with a sense of beauty and wonder, because it’s them. Their thoughts, their opinions, their take on whatever applies the meaning. My wife and I can talk about the rain and the trees and the bugs and the birds for hours, for no other reason than it gives us a chance to be together.
Looking at it the way the post does… you’re missing the forest because of all the trees.
So, you think true will exists or what?
I hope so, I’m getting sick of meeting all these fake Wills
I love the talks with my life partner about the inner depth of the universe and the emptiness beyond. I hate when he doesn’t listen to me about something that I know is a good insight. I also hate when he outright shows coldness. I do that sometimes. I understand we are so good for each other for we are good archetypes that fit together. He doesn’t do small talk sometimes, and he lies about the stupidest things to cut small talk to nothing. But I love him. He’s special, and I’m just happy someone understands my crazy so well.
