If I’m having a heated debate/talk witg someone and someone just chimes in, I literally become a raging gorilla.
Worse: when I’m literally seconds away from doing it.
I don’t understand this mentality, acting like a toddler just makes you look really bad and makes people not like you… it’s ok to be annoyed by it but changing your behavior to look like an asshole will never make sense to me
Because now I’m not smart enough to do a thing without being told to. I can never take initiative, I can only be seen as “follows instructions.” You are stealing agency from me.
Pretty sure they were being facetious
Except I know tons of people actually like this?
From what I understand it’s like robbing someone of their agency. Now they are doing the thing at the behest of another’s intent instead of their own free will. It’s a perfectly cromulent feeling for one to have. How it gets handled is another thing.
This guy gets it. Being asked to do something and doing it immediately creates this “hi, I’ll do stuff immediately when asked” thingy.
If you’ve been taken advantage of because of inability to say no to random shit and being a pushover then it really feels like you’re regressing when doing a task immediately.
Another situation where it’s just supremely annoying is when it’s a pretty obvious next step like when you’re cleaning the bathroom mirror and a person asks you to clean the toilet. I’d literally tell a flatmate I didn’t feel like it even though I was seconds away from doing it.
Cromulent
If you don’t want to do something, do you have to do it anyway unless you have an adult-sounding explanation for why? If people telling you to do things makes you not want to do them, does that make your feelings not valid?
I will stop, drop, and walk away slowly, all while maintaining eye contact.
Not weird to be angry about that.
Normalist Thing
One better - having something explained to you, that you only just explained to them
Here’s one my supervisor does often, bitching at me about something from two weeks ago that’s already done and over.
“This hasn’t been done!”
“Yeah it has, go look”
“Well it wasn’t done two weeks ago when I checked”
“Wtf”
Boss: Is X done yet?
Me: Did you check the ticket?
Boss: don’t you know?
Me: Update would be in the ticket.
Boss: well check and let me know
Spoiler: it was done and noted as such two days prior.
I like it better when they know as well as I do that I don’t know off the top of my head and need to check the exact same source of information that they could have
I write a lot, and I can’t stand passive voice (I’ll fly to your house, ring the bell and kick you in the nuts), refering to something as ‘the Project’, and text that is not justified.
Great way to fuck with people, though.
Order them around very bossily. Order them to do things they’re already doing, already about to do, or have already been told by their actual boss to do.
Use responsibly, of course. Only on people who deserve to be fucked with.
This of course requires people to appoint themselves as the judge of who deserves to be fucked with, which automatically puts oneself in that group.
I used to think this same thing when I was younger. I would do a stupid thing, and then be told to, “grow up”. and I would be like, “yeah, I’m doing that”.
Me: repairing the roof before it pisses it down, but despairing at things not going my way.
The wife: “You’re tired. Leave it until tomorrow.”
Me trying not to be sarcastic or angry: “It’s goingggg to pisssss it down. It needs to be fixed today.”
Wife: “Yeah, you are tired”
Me internally: BOOM
I know when I am tired. 98 times out of a 100 I’m the one who calls it quits when I’ve had enough.
Continually stating the obvious when I’m pissed off AND tired doesn’t make the things that need to be finished magically go better. It just pisses me off even more.Autism has Pathological Demand Avoidance as a theorized category of symptoms. Being asked to do something, regardless of willingness, generates anxiety and a desire to avoid the request.
I don’t get it. They didn’t have an answer, so they just gave a completely normal thing that makes them angry, instead?
That’s weird? I thought people were being annoying when they do that
Trillioniares!
