• MBech@feddit.dk
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    22 days ago

    People should just find people they’re sexually compatible with. No one owes you anything, and you don’t owe anyone anything. Just do whatever you want with consenting adults. I don’t understand why this concept is so fucking hard? You don’t like bush, cool, don’t sleep with someone who has one. You like to have a bush? Cool, don’t sleep with someone who doesn’t like it. Simple as that people. No one decides what they like and what they don’t. You can’t force someone to like your body, so why even bother? There’s plenty people out there who likes you the way you are.

    • Katrisia@lemmy.today
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      21 days ago

      This is the answer in a pragmatic sense, in our day to day. It works, it’s fine. The thing is our tastes are not 100% natural and spontaneous, they can be influenced by context, and that context can be problematic. So the extra step these discussions are asking us to do is beyond the pragmatic or useful day to day advice you gave. It is questioning why we have those tastes. “Why don’t I like natural cis women?”, “Why am I not attracted to black people?”, “Why do I refuse to date trans guys?”. Etcetera. If we find it is not because of prejudices, societal expectations, 'must be’s from unequal societies, or anything like that, then it’s an unfortunate coincidence but we can move on. But if we find something like that (those things I listed), it is not necessarily permanent, I think most of the times it can be worked on, changed, and these discussions are also an invitation to do so.

    • baggachipz@sh.itjust.works
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      22 days ago

      You don’t like bush, cool, don’t sleep with someone who has one.

      Should this conversation happen prior to the encounter, then?

    • ReptilianCleric@lemmy.zip
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      22 days ago

      Umm, I do, in fact, decide what I like or don’t like. That’s true for everybody. But I don’t decide what you like, and vice versa. So the issue is still that you can’t decide for other people what they’re into.

      • Shellofbiomatter@lemmus.orgEnglish
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        22 days ago

        How does that work? Especially given the context. As I’ve understood attraction and what one likes about the other person aren’t really changeable? I’m genuinely curious how can that be changed or decided?

          • Shellofbiomatter@lemmus.orgEnglish
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            21 days ago

            And still, hows that supposed to change what one likes?
            Of course i can consciously decide to override likes and preferences, but that still doesn’t change those. It will still be conscious decision every time.

            And giving the current context of sex. As I’ve understood, we aren’t supposed to force that? Like we don’t go up to someone who’s gay and say why don’t you decide to like women, of course some do, but we’re not supposed because those likes aren’t supposed to be changeable.

    • Hazel@piefed.blahaj.zoneEnglish
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      21 days ago

      There’s plenty people out there who likes you the way you are.

      Hahaha, good one 😂

      … now I’m sad 😔

    • velma@sh.itjust.works
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      22 days ago

      This is about people who go out of their way to comment on typically women’s bodies or go out of their way to leave hate comments to women online for having body hair.

      This is in the intro of the video.

      • MBech@feddit.dk
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        22 days ago

        I’m mostly refering to some of the comments in this thread. A lot seem to take it very personal that some people might not be into the same thing they are.

    • danciestlobster@lemmy.zip
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      22 days ago

      This is the real answer. I mean some compromise is normal and healthy in a relationship, but for the most part everyone just do what you are comfortable with and find people who are good with that

      • velma@sh.itjust.works
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        22 days ago

        Yep and if people at large could stop commenting on women’s body hair publicly, then everyone could be even more focused on finding people they are compatible with <3

  • KuroiKaze@lemmy.world
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    21 days ago

    I’m going to make the follow-up series, “Women that don’t eat my perfectly maintained ass are ungrateful”

    Please like and subscribe and eat my booty like groceries

  • infinitesunrise@slrpnk.netEnglish
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    21 days ago

    Could we stop trying to resuscitate that man’s image? He was a war criminal just like every other president before and after.

  • kerrigan778@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
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    21 days ago

    I’m a woman who is basically fine with bush but if it’s totally untamed just logistically I am going to have to pause from my eating you and/or swallowing you down a lot to pick hairs out of my mouth.

  • rizzothesmall@sh.itjust.works
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    21 days ago

    I don’t hate Bush at all. She’s original, and some of her tunes are catchy, I just think that she’s taken having a unique vocak style a bit over the line of being silly.

  • DarkFuture@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    21 days ago

    I alternate. With my own bush as well as partner’s. Sometimes I like bush, sometimes I don’t.

    I do prefer women to shave everything between their legs though, otherwise things get…uriney…and a quick wipe ain’t gonna get that out of the hair down there. Same with butthole hair. But trimming that is usually enough to prevent issues. Don’t necessarily need to shave it.

  • marxismtomorrow@lemmy.today
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    22 days ago

    I’m not saying I don’t like Bush but it’s a little silly to call me ungrateful after the whole Iraq and Afghanistan debacle.

    • gtownjim@piefed.caEnglish
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      22 days ago

      The 1990s British alt-rock band Bush was temporarily known as Bush X only in Canada. They were forced to add the “X” because a 1970s Canadian rock group named Bush (led by Domenic Troiano) already legally held the rights to the name in the Canadian market.

      Wikipedia

    • SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      22 days ago

      A hard disagree from me.

      As a lesbian with occasional exceptions, I hate pubic hair on me, and find it off-putting on those I sleep with.

      Trimming (with a “bodyhair trimmer”) the whole area takes me about one minute once a week (I don’t shave, otherwise I get ingrown hairs), and I’m told it’s very pleasant like that for a variety of activities

    • velma@sh.itjust.works
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      22 days ago

      This is about people who go out of their way to comment on typically women’s bodies or go out of their way to leave hate comments to women online for having body hair.

      I’m interested to see how this goes in here.

      • blarghly@lemmy.worldEnglish
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        22 days ago

        I mean, I don’t have any problem with women who don’t trim their hedges. I just don’t want to sleep with them

      • velma@sh.itjust.works
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        22 days ago

        There’s a lot of straight men that are just not giving head. And I think if having a little bush, even if it’s like a neat little trim, like we don’t necessarily have to be talking about a full garden. If you won’t give somebody head because they have, let’s say, just like a little peach fuzz, like a nice trim, that’s ungrateful because a especially especially if you’re expecting um head in return or that’s just like your expectation is that if you’re hooking up with someone, you’re going to get head.

        Um ladies, don’t be giving nobody head unless they give you head first. That’s all I have to say. I also think these people are ungrateful because you’re really just not appreciating the time and energy that goes into having a bush, especially if it’s a trimmed bush. Um because like that’s time, that’s thought, that’s effort. Like the coochie is the centerpiece. It’s the it’s God’s gift to this green earth. And she took extra time to put some decor on that thing. Like, and think about how much time and energy it takes to grow that full luscious forest. Okay, that in in and of itself, like, think about all the things you could do with that bush. Like, you could literally do arts and crafts with a full forest. Some of y’all are balding. Like, you could really use that hair. So, I think if you’re complaining about somebody having a bush, like you just don’t understand dedication.

        Oh I think I love this woman hahaha

      • velma@sh.itjust.works
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        22 days ago

        Oh trust, there are a lot of men who will not touch their tongue to pussy if there’s any hair at all.

        Have you ever tried to shave balls? A harrowing experience. I’m taking my own life, and millions of my little guys lives, into my own hands. Why am I putting a bleeding sack on the line when you can’t run some clippers over your mound? Come on.

        Why is it tit for tat? Couldn’t both just not shave and still give head?

        • agamemnonymous@sh.itjust.works
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          22 days ago

          To be fair, the shaft is typically mostly hairless, so unless you’re going for the balls (which is appreciated obviously) it’s not much of a factor. The pussy is under the bush, so if it isn’t at least trimmed I’m gonna be getting a lot of hair in my teeth, which is not ideal.

          Refusing to go down on trimmed bush is kinda wild, but refusing to go down on an untamed forest isn’t all that unreasonable. It can be very distracting.

          • velma@sh.itjust.works
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            22 days ago

            To be fair, the shaft is typically mostly hairless

            It’s mostly hairless, but there’s definitely hair along the shaft that gets stuck in one’s bottom teeth when giving head to a penis-haver. A lot. And the hair that is on the balls and the surrounding area is also distracting, incredibly thick, and can get in the way. It doesn’t stop me from sucking dick though.

            The pussy is sort of in the middle of the bush, it’s easy to get your tongue and mouth in there if you push the hair back a little. And that’s only if you’re going down on a person that is particularly hair and letting it grow wild. Again, it’s never been enough to stop me, but to each their own.