I swear, when someone’s talking to me now, I can barely understand what’s happening. I know I’m no spring chicken anymore but I wish I was 16 again lol when I experience things it’s like it’s a memory or like I’m at the back of my head. It’s hard to explain. Every thing here is getting gradually worse over the years. Suffice to say, I’m not looking forward to my 40’s…
That being said I feel like I’m making a big deal out of something most women my age just get on with and put up with for the rest of their lives without complaining
Same here. I feel awful. But thats becauseI have severe adhd issues and am out of my meds tho. Perhaps look into undiagnosed adhd and possibly arthritis. I feel lethargic and achey unmedicated.
Edit: Hol up did I reply to a troll post
Get your thyroid checked.
Oh it’s you again
See a doctor - this ain’t normal
I have, and was told everything’s normal. I’ve had full blood counts, hormone tests, vitamin and mineral tests, the works.
I dunno if you want a reply from a guy.
I am on meds that have some wild side effects, I know what they are and I can deal with them on small amounts.
At no point have I dealt with more than 2 of them at once.
At no point are they any where near anything you have described.
If they were, I would complain and hopefully change meds or change doctor.You need to continue getting help.
You need to get medical help. Professional help. Not Fediverser.Some of these may be “normal” (I dunno, I ain’t a gal), but all together they are not. And they are affecting your life , so SOMETHING is wrong.
You have enough of a list (as well as enough conviction to argue against the popular comments)… Sounds like you have enough evidence and conviction to find a doctor that can actually help you.
Keep trying, keep working to get help.Hypochondria is still a medical condition, it can still be treated.
But I don’t believe (not a doctor) it actually transverses physical conditions like back pain and vomiting.
So maybe it’s both? Mental health is still medical.Seriously, don’t give up of actual qualified medical help. Keep trying, keep going until you are happy.
This is key: keep going until you get the help you needGet used to that. Doctors didn’t care about any of my symptoms until I could no longer walk. They only care about what they can see
It’s not about what they can see. I’ve had bloodwork done, and I’ve seen the lab results for myself since I requested to have them printed. I’m no longer going to pursue this because at this point it’ll be like I’m a hypochondriac unhealthily obsessed with her health. I’ve got other things to do in my life. I just need to get on with it and cope with it.
Surely you must understand that the most basic blood tests can’t find everything that can be wrong. There are thousands of tests
Off the top of my head, without getting my magazine-thickness stack of lab result papers I had them print out, I’ve had TSH, hb1ac, potassium, sodium, urea, LH, FSH, prolactin, DHEA, testosterone, androgens, b12, folate, ferritin, full blood count, full white cell count, IgA, calcium, estrogen, ca-125, cholesterol, etc tested.
My white cells have been low since the testing began, but I was told this is normal because as you age your immune system declines.
The standard lab ranges are defined by “at least some people don’t show symptoms of deficiencies or issues or etc at these levels,” not “everyone is guaranteed to be fine in these ranges.” I was “in range” with B12 until I started developing nerve damage from a deficiency of it, with years of symptoms leading up to it that were ignored because I was “in range.” I was “in range” with folate, because the standard lab tests inactive folic acid and not active folate. I was “in range” with ferritin, and yet had significant improvement from taking more iron. I was “in range” with potassium and then ended up in the ER multiple times from hypokalaemia so bad that I could barely move.
You get the idea. “In range” is not the same as “will get no benefit from supplementing it,” but it’s the kind of thing that ideally is done with proper medical assistance if you think you’re deficient in things.
That’s gonna eat into your mental health in the long term. Better be careful!
I’ll be strong.
If you’re a hypochondriac, it’s because you’re inventing these symptoms. If you actually have them, it’s an actual problem.
Hypochondria can also include having normal symptoms but making them out to be more of a big deal than what they really are. For example, there’s lots of men who will call a cold “man flu”. That’s a form of hypochondria since most people get colds but deal with them.
“Man flu” is something women say, not men. It’s because many women think men are ridiculous for feeling like they’re dying when they are sick, thinking it shows that they’re weak. It’s ridiculous and as already said there’s evidence that men do get a lot worse than women do in many cases.
There’s more recent evidence that men’s immune systems can be more deeply impacted by flu viruses, causing aches and pains all over their bodies that women don’t usually experience.
Its more than that. Women have a significantly better immune system, and I’m jealous up until the massively increased likelihood of autoimmune disease. Almost all autoimmune diseases occur in women. OP should really look into autoimmune issues.
I know a 20yo woman who has advanced MS with similar symptoms to what she has.
I don’t have a solution, but just wanted to say that doctors can be very unreliable.
I’ve been told that I’m the textbook case of a healthy man in my late 20s, all the while suffering from balance issues, surprise naps, confusion, weakness, and inability to properly parse speech some 1-4 days of the week.
Obviously one should still listen to the doctors, for who else can we rely on, but to me your situation sounds very “normal” which is definitely not a good thing!
Perhaps get a second opinion by a private doctor? I’m considering it by now…
Best of luck!
After your latest post i think i know what is wrong. You need to stop staying awake all night. Humans need to sleep.
Tell Thai Ngoc that.
And there is a family in the USA with a genetic abnormality that gives them nearly unbreakable bones. Does that mean everyone should have unbreakable bones?
And it took me twelve years to get treatment for andometriosis after monthtly crippling pain. It took me another seven for an ADHD diagnosis. Doctors are mostly shit, especially to women.
You want support for this? Fine. But stop phrasing it like it’s a normal part of aging as a woman.
Your doctors and the tests they’ve run have failed you.
I have a chronically ill spouse, she saw a gastroenterologist for years who did scores of tests and a half dozen colonoscopies to figure out their debilitating GI issues and told them again and again “nothing is wrong, all the tests are normal”
It took getting a second and then third and then fourth opinion until we found a competent doctor who looked at an early series of tests that showed positive and then inconclusive results for gluten intolerance and had because the second battery of tests was inconclusive this was “ruled out” and every provider after that just took it as gospel.
The number of times doctors told her she should lose weight, or exercise, or women just have stomach issues sometimes was infuriating. I watched the person I love most in the world suffer for years with no answer, tried different medicines and nutrition plans at the direction of these doctors. I would not accept that my loved one was just going to suffer mysteriously for the rest of their life. I had to fight insurance companies, doctors, and the overwhelming feeling that maybe they are right, maybe nothing is wrong and they just have to be sick.
We finally found a doctor though that had the wisdom to go “hmm, ruled out because of one positive test and one inconclusive…. That’s slim evidence, let’s test again.” Boom, severe gluten intolerance found. We could stop with a bunch of medicines that weren’t helping and had negative side effects, we could finally put together a nutrition plan that would provide everything they need and not poison them.
And now they are still chronically ill, they can never eat gluten, but we know what’s wrong and we have crafted a life where they are happy and healthy and not constantly suffering.
You deserve that too. Doctors are not infallible gods, they are just some guy that got got a medical degree. You know what they call the valedictorian of the medical class, “doctor” you know what they call the lowest performer that barely scraped by, “doctor.” You might think you’ve gotten the works, but I would have thought shoving a camera up my spouses ass 6 times would also qualify as the works to figure out what was going on in there. Turns out if you are a bad doctor, you can run all kinds of tests and not figure shit out because you are a bad doctor.
I’m thirty and none of this applies to me except the back pain but I’ve had that since my teen years (bad posture)
I think a lot of this could be fixed with self care and medical attention. Live your best life stranger 🙂
I figured that swimming and rock climbing do wonders to improve posture and back pain
You really need to get checked out.
Is this like, are you being serious? You need to see a doctor because something is wrong.
Or is this a ‘joke’ about how women are past their prime and degrading with age after they hit 30?
This alt right manufactured gender war shit is so fucking depressing.
I’m being serious, and yes, I’ve seen several doctors who ran many tests and my labs came back normal. I’m not saying women are degrading after they hit 30 but based on my experience I can say it’s true that we do age a bit differently compared to men. We have less collegen for starters, and that’s one of the first tissues to be affected by ageing.
Are you the person who asked about all this in another thread?
You got a lot of good advice in that thread.
Try taking some of it instead of making memes.
You say that like “good advice” doesn’t mean obsessively going to the doctors to get more lab tests that are going to come back normal. I’ve seen several doctors and have a magazine’s worth of papers of various lab tests I’ve had since last year. They say the definition of being a bit mad is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results…
How’d your sleep study go?
You need to keep going and advocating for yourself until you find a doctor that works for you. It sucks that you can’t be taken serious and that a lot of doctos have more patients than they can handle, but that’s the way it is right now.
I don’t. Even my family have told me I go on about my health too much and to get on with it.
Everyone here I have seen is trying to help you, friend. I realize you may not be in a place to understand it, but the last thing people who are responding to you want is for you to continue to suffer these symptoms you’re now apparently trying to turn into a joke.
I just need to be strong, and get on with it.
Happened to me too. It’s still an issue.
You’ve already made a similar post and people have told you to go see a doctor. What more do you want?
I’ve seen many doctors, though.
Then maybe stop eating celery at 7 degrees?
If you have the ability to see other and new doctors you should take the opportunity to do so. No doctor has ever told you this is normal for being in your 30s
They’ve ran loads of bloodwork tests on me. Only thing that came back low is my white cells, but I was told that’s normal because as you age your immune system declines, after your teenage years.
Bloodwork doesn’t show everything. You’re being gaslit because you’re a woman.
This is not normal for women in their 30s.
Tell that to the several doctors who ran bloodwork tests on me and assured me everything’s normal.
It’s not normal. They’re missing something.
Off the top of my head, without getting my magazine-thickness stack of lab result papers I had them print out, I’ve had TSH, hb1ac, potassium, sodium, urea, LH, FSH, prolactin, DHEA, testosterone, androgens, b12, folate, ferritin, full blood count, full white cell count, IgA, calcium, estrogen, ca-125, cholesterol, etc tested.
My white cells have been low since the testing began, but I was told this is normal because as you age your immune system declines.
What do you suppose they are missing? There’s very little to miss, it would seem.
Maybe do a sleep study. Lots of undiagnosed sleep apnea around this age. It gets worse over time. Even if you don’t snore.
edit: feeling déjà vu. Did i recommend this to you before? Either way, most of this is definitely not normal or age related.
They’ve posted this many times and each time insists this is normal for any woman over 30.
How bizarre. Smells a lot like the Sympathy Loophole combined with Munchausen by Internet. This community is like a small town so I’m not sure why they think this will fly. But here we are… feeding the narrative.
Girl…I don’t know what to tell you other than I have bad news for you. I have narcolepsy and this is my every day. This is definitely an undiagnosed medical condition for you.
Yeah, healthcare as a female sucks. My body started revolting in my late 30s and doctors didn’t care. I had to turn to the black market and solved my own problems (hormone related).
Do you live alone? Do you have a carbon monoxide alarm? If not you should get one.
Good news, by the time get into the 40s you got used to it and stop giving a fuck, lol.
I’m not sure how useful replying to your post is because everytime someone replies you don’t listen to what they are saying and just tell them you’ve done everything that can be done and they didn’t understand that there’s nothing that anyone can do because you’ve already seen doctors and they can’t find anything wrong.
However, I’m going to try anyway.
Without trying to diagnose you, I’m just going to share personal experiences.
First, an easy one:
I thought things I was feeling in my 30’s was just aging, then I had a doctor say something was wrong, tested my thyroid, and diagnosed Hashimoto’s Thyroiditis. Before you react and say “They tested my TSH and it’s normal!”, I’m not talking about you, I’m talking about me. I thought my symptoms were because of aging, but discovered that was bullshit.
Next, a much more difficult one:
My wife started having symptoms in her 20’s. Not your symptoms, her symptoms. She started seeing doctors. Sometimes doctors would try things, sometimes they would tell her she should see a shrink.
She did see shrinks, multiple times. They told her she didn’t have any mental illness and she should go back to looking for a medical solution.
Her issues progressed. She couldn’t work anymore and had to sell her optometry practice and go on disability. She continued to search for a doctor who could help. She did her own research to learn about what could be happening. She started teaching her doctors about what was wrong.
We saw doctors up and down the east coast. We went to Johns Hopkins. We went to NIH facilities. We flew across the country to see a doctor in LA. Some doctors came up with things that helped a bit. Some tried for a long time, but then ran out of ideas and gave up. No one had a permanent solution.
Our youngest child, in her 20’s, went to see a doctor about joint pain. That doctor tested her for something and the test came back positive. That disorder is genetic, and it matched some of my wife’s symptoms. My wife got tested, and her test was positive. Now she gets a treatment for that and it is starting to help. She can walk more, do more. She’s started to imagine she might be able to do things like drive a car again.
My wife has been seeing doctors about her health problems for longer than you have been alive. Ultimately, it was a doctor treating our daughter who identified the test she needed. No other doctor in more than 30 years thought of that test.
My point is, when people tell you you have to see other doctors, YOU HAVE TO SEE OTHER DOCTORS. When people tell you to do more tests, YOU HAVE TO DO MORE TESTS. If you give up, no one is going to help you. Stop whining about how hopeless it is, get off your ass, and do the hard work of taking charge of your healthcare.
These are not symptoms of age, they’re indicators that something is not ok in your body.
something is not ok in your body.
…or head
Everything’s normal, though. I’ve had vitamin, blood count, and hormone tests and was told this is all normal. This is something I’m just going to have to get on with, but I was asking for advice to manage/cope with the things I mentioned.
All I’ve can say is, I’m a woman over 40 and if I experienced those symptoms for even one day I would see every doctor in the state until they figured out what was wrong with me. But it’s your body, not mine, and you should live how you want to live.
Are you 100% sure you’re not experiencing those symptoms? It’s possible you’ve gotten so used to them that your brain’s filtered them out. I know someone who had issues with his spine, and while the issue that would be causing pain is still there, he no longer feels it because he’s used to it.
lol, no
I am mid thirties and have not experienced anything remotely like that and would be very concerned if I had.Throwing up when you wake up is not normal, neither is this extreme lethargy. You’re 32, not 80
Some of this seems neurological which is concerning and can be harder to get diagnosed. You could ask for some kind of neurological tests or imaging if you haven’t had that yet?
This comment is the one that says you’re either posting for attention, is a hypochondriac or something else that isn’t what you’re saying. How do you not see the insanity of your reply? You seriously need professional help, no matter if it’s physical or psychological.
