I swear, when someone’s talking to me now, I can barely understand what’s happening. I know I’m no spring chicken anymore but I wish I was 16 again lol when I experience things it’s like it’s a memory or like I’m at the back of my head. It’s hard to explain. Every thing here is getting gradually worse over the years. Suffice to say, I’m not looking forward to my 40’s…
That being said I feel like I’m making a big deal out of something most women my age just get on with and put up with for the rest of their lives without complaining
See a doctor - this ain’t normal
I have, and was told everything’s normal. I’ve had full blood counts, hormone tests, vitamin and mineral tests, the works.
And it took me twelve years to get treatment for andometriosis after monthtly crippling pain. It took me another seven for an ADHD diagnosis. Doctors are mostly shit, especially to women.
You want support for this? Fine. But stop phrasing it like it’s a normal part of aging as a woman.
After your latest post i think i know what is wrong. You need to stop staying awake all night. Humans need to sleep.
Tell Thai Ngoc that.
And there is a family in the USA with a genetic abnormality that gives them nearly unbreakable bones. Does that mean everyone should have unbreakable bones?
Get used to that. Doctors didn’t care about any of my symptoms until I could no longer walk. They only care about what they can see
It’s not about what they can see. I’ve had bloodwork done, and I’ve seen the lab results for myself since I requested to have them printed. I’m no longer going to pursue this because at this point it’ll be like I’m a hypochondriac unhealthily obsessed with her health. I’ve got other things to do in my life. I just need to get on with it and cope with it.
That’s gonna eat into your mental health in the long term. Better be careful!
I’ll be strong.
Surely you must understand that the most basic blood tests can’t find everything that can be wrong. There are thousands of tests
Off the top of my head, without getting my magazine-thickness stack of lab result papers I had them print out, I’ve had TSH, hb1ac, potassium, sodium, urea, LH, FSH, prolactin, DHEA, testosterone, androgens, b12, folate, ferritin, full blood count, full white cell count, IgA, calcium, estrogen, ca-125, cholesterol, etc tested.
My white cells have been low since the testing began, but I was told this is normal because as you age your immune system declines.
The standard lab ranges are defined by “at least some people don’t show symptoms of deficiencies or issues or etc at these levels,” not “everyone is guaranteed to be fine in these ranges.” I was “in range” with B12 until I started developing nerve damage from a deficiency of it, with years of symptoms leading up to it that were ignored because I was “in range.” I was “in range” with folate, because the standard lab tests inactive folic acid and not active folate. I was “in range” with ferritin, and yet had significant improvement from taking more iron. I was “in range” with potassium and then ended up in the ER multiple times from hypokalaemia so bad that I could barely move.
You get the idea. “In range” is not the same as “will get no benefit from supplementing it,” but it’s the kind of thing that ideally is done with proper medical assistance if you think you’re deficient in things.
If you’re a hypochondriac, it’s because you’re inventing these symptoms. If you actually have them, it’s an actual problem.
Hypochondria can also include having normal symptoms but making them out to be more of a big deal than what they really are. For example, there’s lots of men who will call a cold “man flu”. That’s a form of hypochondria since most people get colds but deal with them.
There’s more recent evidence that men’s immune systems can be more deeply impacted by flu viruses, causing aches and pains all over their bodies that women don’t usually experience.
Its more than that. Women have a significantly better immune system, and I’m jealous up until the massively increased likelihood of autoimmune disease. Almost all autoimmune diseases occur in women. OP should really look into autoimmune issues.
I know a 20yo woman who has advanced MS with similar symptoms to what she has.
“Man flu” is something women say, not men. It’s because many women think men are ridiculous for feeling like they’re dying when they are sick, thinking it shows that they’re weak. It’s ridiculous and as already said there’s evidence that men do get a lot worse than women do in many cases.
I don’t have a solution, but just wanted to say that doctors can be very unreliable.
I’ve been told that I’m the textbook case of a healthy man in my late 20s, all the while suffering from balance issues, surprise naps, confusion, weakness, and inability to properly parse speech some 1-4 days of the week.
Obviously one should still listen to the doctors, for who else can we rely on, but to me your situation sounds very “normal” which is definitely not a good thing!
Perhaps get a second opinion by a private doctor? I’m considering it by now…
Best of luck!
Your doctors and the tests they’ve run have failed you.
I have a chronically ill spouse, she saw a gastroenterologist for years who did scores of tests and a half dozen colonoscopies to figure out their debilitating GI issues and told them again and again “nothing is wrong, all the tests are normal”
It took getting a second and then third and then fourth opinion until we found a competent doctor who looked at an early series of tests that showed positive and then inconclusive results for gluten intolerance and had because the second battery of tests was inconclusive this was “ruled out” and every provider after that just took it as gospel.
The number of times doctors told her she should lose weight, or exercise, or women just have stomach issues sometimes was infuriating. I watched the person I love most in the world suffer for years with no answer, tried different medicines and nutrition plans at the direction of these doctors. I would not accept that my loved one was just going to suffer mysteriously for the rest of their life. I had to fight insurance companies, doctors, and the overwhelming feeling that maybe they are right, maybe nothing is wrong and they just have to be sick.
We finally found a doctor though that had the wisdom to go “hmm, ruled out because of one positive test and one inconclusive…. That’s slim evidence, let’s test again.” Boom, severe gluten intolerance found. We could stop with a bunch of medicines that weren’t helping and had negative side effects, we could finally put together a nutrition plan that would provide everything they need and not poison them.
And now they are still chronically ill, they can never eat gluten, but we know what’s wrong and we have crafted a life where they are happy and healthy and not constantly suffering.
You deserve that too. Doctors are not infallible gods, they are just some guy that got got a medical degree. You know what they call the valedictorian of the medical class, “doctor” you know what they call the lowest performer that barely scraped by, “doctor.” You might think you’ve gotten the works, but I would have thought shoving a camera up my spouses ass 6 times would also qualify as the works to figure out what was going on in there. Turns out if you are a bad doctor, you can run all kinds of tests and not figure shit out because you are a bad doctor.
I dunno if you want a reply from a guy.
I am on meds that have some wild side effects, I know what they are and I can deal with them on small amounts.
At no point have I dealt with more than 2 of them at once.
At no point are they any where near anything you have described.
If they were, I would complain and hopefully change meds or change doctor.
You need to continue getting help.
You need to get medical help. Professional help. Not Fediverser.
Some of these may be “normal” (I dunno, I ain’t a gal), but all together they are not. And they are affecting your life , so SOMETHING is wrong.
You have enough of a list (as well as enough conviction to argue against the popular comments)… Sounds like you have enough evidence and conviction to find a doctor that can actually help you.
Keep trying, keep working to get help.
Hypochondria is still a medical condition, it can still be treated.
But I don’t believe (not a doctor) it actually transverses physical conditions like back pain and vomiting.
So maybe it’s both? Mental health is still medical.
Seriously, don’t give up of actual qualified medical help. Keep trying, keep going until you are happy.
This is key: keep going until you get the help you need