A bisexual is a pansexual who’s had enough of kitchen jokes
Would a pansexual be a bisexual who’s had enough shopping jokes?
No. But of Bicycles.
Wait, I’m sorry but I have never heard a bisexual shopping joke. Would you please educate me?
Sorry, I don’t actually know any, but I guessed the kitchen jokes about pansexual are related to the “pan” part. I then though it feasible there were shopping jokes about bisexuals because of the “bi” (homophone for buy) part.
Ah okay! I’m more into the utensils.
This made my day. If Lemmy had awards I would award this post but awards are pointless. So this comment will do. I laughed so hard at this.
What do the columns, the stalactite-stalagmites grow from in this analogy.
Agender, neopronoun, and nonbinary identities
Those are still covered under bisexual though. Technically, if you’re a woman attracted to nonbinary people, you’re heterosexual.
And this is why we invented new and better words.
My understanding is that bisexuals select all partners from both sexes and pansexuals select all partners from all genders
That understanding is wrong.
Bisexual means “homo and hetero sexual”. So, “attracted to my own gender and not-my-own gender”. Thats the classical definition.
And then people who didn’t understand that, invented the world pansexual to mean exactly the same thing.
Do you have a resource to confirm what you’re saying? Because homosexual means same sex and heterosexual is opposite sex. Bisexual would be both sexes by that reasoning
“hetero” means “different” not “opposite”. The source would be any dictionary mentioning the root.
Your snarky comment about better understanding bisexuality and pansexuality does very little for my actual request for resources.
“Heteros” means “different”, not “opposite”
Bisexuals grow from pansexuals dripping on them.
Bi-Bi relationships.
When a bisexual and a pansexual love each other very much… they grow together :)
i’m east coast bi west coast pan, because what the words mean are different on opposite sides of the US
Pansexuals just over thought it tbh
Honestly to me the difference is mostly cultural or vibes, and I just identify with bi vibes more. I feel like the flags encapsulate this difference well
TIL stalactites are pan…
This is so weird for me. I thought my app was broken (and I’m thinking it is in a niche way) because suddenly almost no posts were loading. It turns out you just spammed a ton of posts, and they specifically won’t load for me, but all other posts are fine. Weird.
The difference is that the pans got the better flag colors.
hell nah, the only reason why i don’t call myself pan is because the flag colours are ugly
late sunset over a deep ocean vs printer toners
Hell nah! I use the bi label specifically because of the colors! (And because more people immediately unterstand what it means)
It was recently pointed out to me that an outfit I have been rocking for years makes it look like I’m trying to be a walking bisexual flag: pink button up over a purple tank top with blue shorts. This was by coincidence do but I love those colors so I was fully prepared to die on the hill that it was the superior flag.
But after refreshing my memory, you right the pan flag looks like three flavors of ice cream stacked atop each other
Bisexual - You’re over 35
Pansexual - You’re under 35
Omnisexual - You’ve spent way more time thinking about your sexuality than getting laid
Sapiosexual - You’re a straight guy trying and failing to impress the cute barista by seeming cool and intellectual.
Huh, I’ve only ever heard women describe themselves as sapiosexual
Updated!
Honestly I think you’re giving them too much credit to say they’re doing it to avoid messages. It’s the same weird virtue signalling in both cases. “Not like the other girls,” etc.
It’s inventing a sexuality because you think it makes you sounds smart. Ooohh physical attraction is for losers, I’m only attracted to BRAINS. I can’t help but think these people would still shy away from an ugly genius
Flexisexual - you’ll take what you can get
Also known as bi-greedy
Are they a regex?
.*sexual
Mexisexual if you like it spicy, corny, and fulfilling.
Demisexual polyamorous transgender lesbian here - what queerness am I denying myself ;-;
I’m not certain, but I wish you the best of luck in finding it. 😅
Under what does someone fall, who regularly forgets that sex exists, immune to flirting, needs external reminders/influence and effort to get in to the mood, cant wrap their head around attraction at all and completely hates the hand their dealt with?
That would be asexual
Damnit, i always circle back to that one.
Probably because the identities we circle back to often have merit even if we don’t like it (the number of years I kept finding stupid arguments that I wasn’t trans…)
It sounds like you dislike this about yourself. You could check to see if there’s a medical issue causing extremely low libido. But fair warning, it may just result in you being horny and not finding anyone attractive.
Ace, or graysexual
Autistic.
Hey now! I may be autistic but I assure you I don’t ever forget sex exists and im horny like 90~95% of the time, but I am completely oblivious to flirting or interesting shown so that doesn’t get mitigated as much as I’d like
Well yeah, little bit of that too. That’s what probably makes it more confusing.
Aro/ace.
You need to work on detangling intimacy and sex in your brain, there’s no reason to hate lack of drive.
But there is, it causes problems and puts unproportionaly much pressure on the other side. Aka the other side needs to do the initiating 99% of the times, which creates the feeling of not being wanted. Coupled with the constant rejection as well isn’t that good on self esteem either.
Like in relationships posts which get more popular, there are always guys who complain how they’re tired from constantly initiating and don’t feel wanted, which leads to them just giving up all together.
no, there is no reason to hate lack of drive.
Let me put it this way: Do you hate a gay man for not wanting to fuck women? Asexuality is a valid part of the spectrum. If you have no interest, then you have no interest. But it doesn’t mean you can’t have an intimate relationship or love. Plenty do it. The key is communication - if your partner thinks you have sexual feelings but are rejecting them then it’s a very different beast to "I don’t have sexual feelings for anyone"
there are always guys who complain how they’re tired from constantly initiating and don’t feel wanted
If you’re talking the broader complaints of society here, that’s a very different kettle of fish, and a lot of it is tied into not doing the work before just going “snog me, woman!”
Pretty sure that’s demi.
Others are saying grey or ace. Why demi then?
I may have gotten my terms mixed up, but I think demi is reactive sexuality, someone who gets turned on by their partner getting turned on. Requires a bond / connection. Not really interested without it.
I’m not super familiar with terms on that ace spectrum though. It’s somewhere on there.
Fair, reactively getting turned on kinda fits under outside influence part. Though cant tell anything about the bond/connection aspect, as thats way too vague and complicated for me.
I’ve been Demisexual since I first watched Striptease as a teenager.
I like to call it “millenial” vs “gen z” pan/bisexuality
I’m pansexual, solidly a millennial, and started using the term nearly a decade and a half ago. Which was late to the game, since the term had been around for about a decade before that.
Swear I heard it late nineties
Nah, mills are all about the pan, genx are the bis
That is the best description of sapiosexual I have ever heard
I thought pansexual was where you had the legs of a goat, played a little reed flute, and got off on being generally mischievous.
I think pansexual should be for people who would fuck an alien who has no corollary on the human gender spectrum.
Agree. I would take that alien and consensually do alien things with them.
I just thought pansexuals didn’t exclude furries.
What does this even mean?
They don’t discriminate, like at all?
That they thought “bisexual” excluded furries, and “pansexual” included furries.
Why would anyone…? Huh?
Makes about as much sense as people who think bisexuality excludes trans and enbys
I once knew a lady who thought pansexual meant “everything,” and specifically actual animals. I had to explain that it’s just bisexual but more.
“Bi-” doesn’t exclude them, but “pan-” exists to explicitly include them. Those aren’t the same thing.
I just like the bisexual flag colors better.
Kinda same, and I’m not even bi/pan.
Same. That’s literally the only reason I say bi and not pan
I am the opposite and prefer the magenta, light blue and yellow to the magenta and dark blue.
idk cooking sounds cooler than 2
I’m biromantic; I like many different genders. But I most certainly do not like all genders. And those I do like, I do not like equally
